My daughter and I were at a clinic. The instructor was excellent. As this was a three day clinic, the option to have dinner each day with the clinician was presented. The first night we did so --after a bit of drink --the clinician spoke at length about topics of which we did not share his beliefs. He was as a teenager a refugee from the Middle East, spent time in camps, and ultimately came to the US and established himself in the horse world. However, his strong feelings about the cause of his difficult life, and whom he blamed for deaths of people close to him, were in our opinion not justified. My daughter started to disagree with him (she’s brilliant and might well have engaged him in a long, most likely heated, possibly ugly debate) --and I spoke softly to her so only she could hear. I said that we had come to learn to improve our riding, and not discuss controversial views. She nodded and and we excused ourselves and left the table. We did not socialize with the instructor again --we did finish the clinic and found the advise and help excellent.
Had we not been in an educational venue, I would have been willing to engage on a political level, and I would have supported my daughter’s decision to confront. But we were there to learn, not to debate. One never knows how “angering the teacher” may play out in subsequent instruction. I didn’t want to find out. It was a decision I made on the spot --my daughter and I have discussed it at length --and we decided never to use that clinician again.
If you find an instructor or trainer personally offensive, take your money and support elsewhere.