I like your response.
My horse, Sir SpooksAlot, can do a really hard spook when he’s actually afraid. Which is a hassle - I love silicone full-seat breeches but man, my back isn’t pleased. But he’s learned that a mild spook is something that can get him out of work (or so he thinks). Actually, he’s a very hypervigilant horse and is usually looking for things that are “out of place”, according to him. He’s gone in the same arena for 10 years and still spooks in the same place (at something he sees in the distance beyond the gate) or if something is out of place. Similar to your horse, he spooks less when his tasks by the gate are hard and he really has to pay attention or I do something like comb my inside leg or spur and he says “what’s that?” and puts an ear on me. I always praise him when he puts an ear from strongly on “that” to on me. He learns to pay attention because the spooking doesn’t get him out of work and will make him circle around and around and do stuff (even walk and turning patterns) in that same scary place. But at the same time, I don’t want to punish him for spooking because he actually spooks sometimes and I can feel his heartbeat. I know that is genuine. I want him to pay attention and have confidence in me rather than something he sees outside of the arena. It’s been a long haul but the training has worked.
I do what you do.