[QUOTE=dungrulla;8062060]
You’re right, I don’t understand subtle tone. However this isn’t subtle.
Subtle would be sarcastically implying that what someone said was rude, or perhaps a tongue-in-cheek comment.
Quoting the same person three times to tell them how wrong they are is like getting hit in the face with a sledgehammer–rather hard to miss and not subtle at all. You’d have to have picked through their comments three separate times. Even I don’t miss stuff like that…which should tell you something.[/QUOTE]
An alternate explanation is that FA simply responded before reading the entire thread, then finished reading and had more to say. Note, her first quoted passage came before her second quoted passage and the third simply re-enforced the point she was trying to make. Did it come off aggressive? Obviously it did to some. However, I’ve made the same mistake myself (responding before reading everything) and I think we can spare a little grace for her.
OP, I’m rather spectrum-y myself, so I get it. I hate talking on the phone setting up appointments, etc. I am the queen of avoiding phone calls/confrontation/human interaction. Farrier (and vet) appointments have been a big challenge for me in my time as a horse owner. The best advice I can give you is:
A) pay someone else to do it (in my case the BO handles all farrier and routine vet). It may cost more depending on what’s included with board/training, but it does ensure that it always gets done. In your case, can you get on the same schedule as some of your trainer’s horses? Then just leave a check for the farrier in your trunk, pay your trainer $X to hold if you can’t be there, and never worry about another farrier phone call again.
B) Recognize that as much as you don’t like what you’re doing, it is necessary for your horse’s health and happiness. He can’t call the farrier himself. I consider doing these little, hard things practice for when I have to do the bigger, hard things (sell, euth, etc.).