Thx everyone for your answers.
I am looking for something to act as a detangler b/f brushing. I know that true quality of the hair isnāt changed by anything you put on it. i just want something that isnāt going to dry it out & make it prone to more breakage. I have been using show sheen & cowboy magic, both silicone products. I would prefer something that was more of a moisturizer.
I have used argon oil in my own hair & most of the stuff for sale is mostly silicone, not much oil. (see ingredients list, pretty much any āconeā is siliconeā. I do like some of the styling products, though 
The lanolin product sounds tempting. I will try some of your suggestions & report back.