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Like the previous poster said, there is no single proven way to get over jumping fear. I have recently returned to jumping after decades long break. Plus I have a horse who has never jumped and it’s been so long since I have, I may as well have never jumped. I found a trainer who will not berate either of us, but be methodical and correct in our equitation and approach to poles and little jumps until we’re comfortable…maybe even bored.
There is nothing better than time and correct practice to get over fear. Make sure your trainer knows how to get your focus on what to do right vs. letting you focus on what might go wrong. When my mind runs wild with “what-ifs”, all I can do is direct that to more constructive thinking! Good luck![/QUOTE]
THIS.
I stopped jumping years ago due to overwhelming anxiety. I’ve ended up teaching a number of anxious riders simply because I ‘get’ where they are coming from.
Anxiety and fear don’t have to be rational, and can’t simply be logic’d away. The best solution I’ve seen is slow steady desensitization. Work at the comfort level until bored, increase until interesting but not frightening then practice until bored. Regarding your newish horse, do what you feel safe doing and have others work on the rest for you. Get on, sit and use her as a sofa until that is no big deal. Once that is easy, walk around a 20 m circle etc. You need to build up a huge reserve of confidence to counteract the fear. You already have the reserve with the old horse
Example: I have a young, and not particularly brave, student who had a hard fall a bit over a year ago. She had a concussion, several weeks off and a slow start back with lots of fear. She decided she didn’t want to jump and we worked on flatwork, transitions/pace/etc. for nearly the entire year. Around December SHE started asking if we could add in some poles or tiny (like 6 inch high) crossrails, which I did happily. This weekend she chose to add in a small (1 foot) vertical and was having a great time. I’ll keep her at this level until she starts asking for more.
Do what makes you feel safe, first and foremost, and work from there.