I’m a mess. A few months ago I had a terrible, horrifying, heartbreaking experience at the barn where I was boarding (no animals were harmed and I got right out of there) that really screwed with my PTSD and took a good month to start to recover from. I felt I had been taken advantage of by a couple of people I thought were friends, was shocked at my poor ability to judge character, and have been spending a lot of time thinking about my own role in what happened and how I need to improve my own behavior. I’m just as crazy as anyone else in this scenario, but I never tried to hurt anyone.
Since the move, I no longer have a trainer. I really liked the one I had and felt she was good for me and my horse, but it just didn’t work out.
Right before I moved, I physically injured myself and it took about a month to get over that, as well. When I finally got back on, I promptly fell off onto cement and sprained my back. I’m just starting to ride again.
So now it’s a few months after the move and I’m at a much better barn in stunning surroundings. We have a better vet and a wonderful farrier. My horse is happier, she has a better stall and nicer turnout and has made friends. It’s even closer to my house and cheaper :eek::yes:
But I am a mess. I like the barn, I like the people, I love my horse, but I just feel burnt out on the whole thing. I don’t feel I can trust anyone, or rather, I fear that other people might actively dislike me and be working against me behind my back as happened in the last place. I can’t bring myself to go to the barn more than twice a week and my horse is losing condition. I haven’t been able to schedule a lesson yet with the trainer who works there (rather infrequently) and I feel like I have lost my seat. I’m looking for someone to part-lease my horse until I can get myself together but so far haven’t found any candidates, and I’m afraid to trust anyone else with my horse, too.
I started riding again a few days ago with some fear, so did a few minutes of just walking in the arena. The next day we did some trotting and a short trail ride, and i felt great about it. Today I went to ride and had forgotten my clean saddle pads at home so just went out and longed for a while. My horse is perfectly fine and excellently behaved. I don’t know if I’m going to ride tomorrow (I’ve been working 10 hour days on a project, which is also part of the problem. Things at work are about to get pretty bad and I’ve been expecting it for some time. I’m burning out at work as well and am working on my resume and having some former bosses and mentors review it for me).
I feel like I’m letting my horse down by not being there every day and not exercising her regularly. I miss her, too. I’m sad about it and I’m not sure what to do. Do I need a break? Do I need to force myself to get out there every day? (been trying, but am using my tiredness as an excuse)
Thanks for listening. I don’t know if there are any answers. Maybe you can tell me if you’ve been through something like this, and how you handled it?