The order of events did transpire in the way I have described them. I did my best to remain objective as this is my first experience with foaling and I did not know what was normal and what wasn’t. I came here to get feedback on how everything was being handled and if everyone here had been “oh yea… that is how things are normally handled…” then I would have felt much better but from what everyone here has said… this is very much a messed up situation.
This is not the first bad experience that I personally have had with this vet. I do not care for this vet and do not use them for myself. The mare’s owner, however, only really uses THIS vet. I was not in a position to tell her what to do with her own horse so I was left with just having to go along with whatever she decided to do. I was willing to trust things with her thinking well she has been using this vet for a long time and they have a relationship that maybe things will work out. I feel that the situation turned into a control issue and that the vet was maybe too pessimistic with everything which never gave the owner a chance to have hope.
Personally… I think I would have packed up my horse and baby and gone to get a second opinion at least and given the baby AT LEAST a full day to sort itself out. It probably only got about 16hrs tops. I have not been told anything other than his legs were contracted and he was unable to stand up as to what was really wrong with him. I would imagine if they had found something more concerning I would have been told this as the reason why he was put down. I feel like I have been stuck in a nightmare I can’t wake up from.
All I can do now is move on. I am very sad and disappointed in how things turned out. I can’t do anything about it but learn from it. I have my own mare to focus on for a healthy birth next Spring and that is what I am going to choose to focus on from here on out.