Fitting square pegs into round holes

You and @ladyj79 bring up a good point. So many people are unrealistic with their expectations! I feel like this particularly true with boarding and horse shopping. Because in addition to your boarding example, people will post things like:

ISO upper level prospect, between 5-7 years of age, over 16H, must be sound, sane, and have a recognized show record. Budget: $2,000. :lol:

Not to sound agist, but usually the people posting stuff like that are teens and college-aged adults, still young enough to have big dreams without the heavy dose of reality that hits later in life.

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Your story reminds me of when I purchased my first pet snake many years ago. I did my research and had a whole list of traits to look for in a pet snake: species with good temperaments, how to spot potential behavior and health problems, the best age of snake to acquire, etc.

I showed up at the exotic reptile breeder’s place to choose my snake and the first thing she asked me was, “what color do you want?” :lol:

People are weird when buying animals.

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What really gets me is the snarky responses if you politely decline their offer. The only time I put an ISO ad out on the dreaded FB it was for a very specific brand, size, color of 1/2 pad. I was in no hurry as this would just be a replicate back-up to the pad I already had and loved. Kind of a long-shot ISO and I would have been fine if the stars didn’t align and the exact pad I was looking for didn’t happen

I got a bunch of responses that matched maybe 1 of my 3 clearly started requirements. I politely declined with an exchange that went something like this:

poster: “I have a bright blue Ogilvy”
Me: “no thanks, not exactly what I am looking for”
Poster “Y not?”
me: “Its not Mattes and it doesn’t offer shims”
poster: “y do you need shims? Its a good pad you should buy it. Your saddle doesn’t fit if you need shims”

I just eyerolled and stopped interacting. I’m not on a cheap used car lot - I don’t need to explain to you why I’m not interested in whatever goods you are slinging. For this reason I still enjoy the ancient way of selling & buying on ebay, even though that landscape as changed drastically and its much harder to find consumer to consumer used goods there now.

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Ah yes. Saw one of these ISO ads yesterday “3’ packer gelding, 16.2 hands min, aged 6-10, no vices, no maintenance, must be gray or have lots of chrome, budget 3k” like I understand wanting a deal but this seemed a little over the top. The responses were equally bizarre.

This happens so much on a FB group I frequent. One poster said her higher-level jumper was perfectly broke and had exceptional flatwork, but she was finding he needed something just slightly stronger than a snaffle over the bigger jumps, had anyone dealt with something similar/any bits she should try? Cue 100 comments telling her to go back to flatwork and that if her horse couldn’t jump a 1.20 course in a rubber loose ring she shouldn’t be jumping at all (I’m exaggerating but
 not by much).

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When I was horse shopping I did the ISO on FB with my list of preferred criteria - Not under 14.3 hands, under 17 years, good mind, likes to jump, some maintenance okay, not interested in Arabians (nothing against them, just not a breed I was interested in), plays well with others, etc. I was in a position to buy with a healthy budget and received several suggestions but the one that I remember was “14 hand arabian gelding, 24 years old, western pleasure trained.” Seriously, I hope that one was a joke.

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I was looking for a 3 or 4 year old under saddle, and bought an unbacked long yearling - from you. No regrets.

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I am so glad you had her. She was a grand mare!

oh mannnnn, this happens so much in here LOL! I see the same people denigrating and shading on everybody’s threads. And i personally feel that ‘they’ are inept riders speaking as-if they are superskilled. It’s kinda funny really, but if this were FB i’d block them.

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At a slight tangent, when marking university end of year exams, I used to give an automatic 10% to the students who actually answered the question. It was a bit surprising how many didn’t.

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Emotions and desperation may be a factor in some responses. After no bites people may jump on any post/ad where someone is willing to buy.
i get that and feel for them. I think this how many people feel when looking for a job, need a job and apply for anything.

Personally I don’t read for comprehension when I’m too emotional or judgmental

Sometimes I respond too quickly because I am eager to help.
When I’m particularly groggy in the morning I totally misread news headlines, sometimes what I interpret is hysterically funny (to me).

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I had to read the post under yours to figure out what you were saying. This is nowhere near DC, around Chicago. Yes, people here have ridiculous requests similar to what the Redlei44 said, but that’s the seeker being unrealistic, not the repliers. There are SO many people who just seem to want to name the barn they’re at even though it’s in the far west suburbs, when the poster wants the far north suburbs.

I was making light of the fact that i personally feel compelled to respond to lots of these unrealistic barn iso posts on the chronicle of the horse, which is a virginia publication, so has a preponderance of DC metro posters, because they ask for unicorn barns around dc. Where I spent the better part of my adult life. I am sorry that was unclear.

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When I first saw the title of this thread I immediately thought of a former trainer of mine that would never, ever buy a horse that was trained for the discipline for which it was intended. She bought barrel horses and tried to make them hunters, Arabs that had been shown English Pleasure and tried to make them jumpers, etc etc - I mean, think of a horse trained in some wildly different discipline and then try to make it something it isn’t. And she - and her poor clients - wondered why nothing ever worked out
hmmm, who would think, right? Or the woman I boarded with that wanted this: four year old 17.3 warmblood, jumping four feet or better. For $700. Never mind that on her best day and on the nicest most willing horse in the barn she couldn’t get over two feet without having to be coaxed and then having a melt down that was what she was. going. to. get. Of course she was practically laughed out of existence by every seller, but she still she persisted. Finally, trainer (see above) persuaded her to buy an older dressage horse that hated jumping for about $2k. She was last seen trying to beat this poor animal into being a hunter and jumping. Poor horse.

But the problems mentioned here - I want X, you try to sell me Y are everywhere. I had to buy a car, and I told the salesman what I wanted (small used SUV) and he kept showing me small used sedans. I say “I want ABC.” He says “Oh look at this Elantra or CIvic or Prius.” Dude
no. The one that made me laugh was my neighbor wanted some small desk thing for her house. She posted on Facebook sales and got back some woman trying to sell her some baking pans. w
t
f
lol.

And oh gawd yes
the snarky responses when you turn down their PERFECTLY reasonable suggestions
:lol::lol::lol:

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I can’t even read the ISO $1500 unicorn adds anymore in the horses of FL group. I’m afraid my eyes are gonna’ roll out of my sockets.

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Very true! I’m also guilty of the same things, especially first thing in the morning! :lol:

On COTH, I know I’m sometimes guilty of reading the title of a thread and forming a response before I even read the details of the OP.

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To be fair, I see a LOT of people post in location-specific groups (on Facebook) and then it turns out they’re not looking for board anywhere near that location.

For example, someone posts in a group such as Sporthorse Ocala (as in, specifically for Ocala, FL), doesn’t provide any location information, then gets mad that people are suggesting barns in Ocala. Responders are apparently supposed to just know the OP actually lives three hours away and are looking for board in Tallahassee. Like hellooooooooooooooooo

Honestly, even if the post lists a location, most people scrolling through aren’t going to bother looking at it. if you’re posting in a group that’s for a specific city, they’re going to assume your ISO is for the city of the group you’re posting in.

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Since I’ve turned this into a gripe fest of annoying things people do when buying/selling/advertising in FB groups:

It kills me when boarding farms advertise in FB groups without giving a location! Isn’t location generally one of the top priorities when selecting a boarding farm for a riding horse? Even regional FB groups usually have a radius of a few hours drive time in any direction.

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Because they are hoping someone else will see their comment and be looking for that particular item.

Not including location is probably one of my biggest peeves for ANY post - horse for sale, service, etc.
I include location when I post.

But maybe they’re hoping it’ll make people look at their farm page to find location, which will get their traffic stats up?? IDK

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