nope, it’s McIntosh
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USEF spells it McIntosh.
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thank you
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@WildLittleWren My heart bleeds for the child you were.
I don’t know what to say except that I hope you have found peace, and, that you sound like a very good parent. :yes:
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I stand corrected.
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Ugh arbitrators didn’t uphold the lifetime ban on Callaghan.
https://www.usatoday.com/story/sport…newstopstories
Wonder what the take of the equity folks will be on this?
I think it is reprehensible.
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It was reduced to a three year suspension with 15 years probation for a 73 year old. Unfortunate the ban was reduced, but 3 years is not nothing.
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@roseymare thank you for sharing that. It is incredibly disturbing news for sure. Particularly so because the arbitrator didn’t dispute that the abuse occurred. The most recent abuse was in 2001, and I think we all know that molesting young teens was not “okay” at that time.
I think this case touches on the real truth here, which is not that Safe Sport is too powerful but that it isn’t nearly powerful enough.
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The good news is, three years is a long time in the world of a competitive sport, especially at the top level. Hopefully by the time his suspension is up, the sport will have moved on without him.
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Interesting is that the reason cited was old charges and what this might say about the GM ban that was upheld. Not necessarily the same arbitrator though.
Those were pretty much my exact thoughts.
That was great! Thank you for sharing.
ETA: I’m fascinated by the comments. One of Tom Navarro’s students defending him despite a criminal conviction.
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Literally came here to say that. Did you see her comment on how his jumping instruction being safe overtakes the “smidge of an offense”? (For those that don’t fancy a google, he was convicted IN A COURT OF LAW of 3rd degree sodomy- which means it was likely a minor he had authority over.)
“We want legal due process… SO WE CAN IGNORE IT ANYWAY!”
Actually cannot make this up. The mental gymnastics people are doing is amazing. Olympic worthy even. I’m sure Nassar would be thrilled to be on their team.
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Pederast.
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It’s okay because she never leaves her daughter alone… 🤦”♀ï¸
I hope her membership gets yanked under aiding and abetting with a “smidge” of child endangerment.
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[B][I]Another friend knew he was gay “when the doctor slapped my butt as a baby- I said thank you sir may I have another!” And he lost his virginity at 11. To a man. Who was horrified at himself.
Victim? Abuser?[/I][/B]
Re: this incredible and repulsive statement by Duncan McIntosh. If the 11 year old in this scenario is unsure whether or not he was a victim; it’s because he had been groomed carefully beforehand. That’s why predators and child abusers groom their victims; it’s another form of gaslighting to make the child question the nature of the relationship. It also makes them incredibly vulnerable to victim shaming, because they already believe that they are somehow responsible for their own abuse.
I had a sexual relationship with a married teacher in my high school for years; it continued after I went to college.
For decades afterwards, during the rare times I discussed it, I would not describe it as abuse, I described it as consensual, and I that I was the one that sexualized the relationship.
The relationship started as mentorship when I was 14 and did not involve intercourse until I was 16, the age of consent in that state at that time. Not a coincidence.
Having been previously abused, I was an ideal candidate. I was starved for attention and pathetically eager to please. And I had been raised to believe that sex was the price one paid for love and care. So would it be accurate to say that I sexualized the relationship? Yes, it was. Would it also be accurate to say that the situation was very carefully prepared and I was manipulated in ways I didn’t understand? Yes, absolutely. I was very eager to start paying back the affection and attention I didn’t feel I deserved.
The “grooming” had started long before I met this man. He only had a little work to do to finish it, and of course, wait until I was of legal age.
Does any of this make it something other than child abuse? Or something other than calculated predation of a child? Nope.
But it took me decades, literally decades (and all those therapists) to stop defending this relationship and see it for what it actually was.
I weep for that 11 year old boy who somehow feels that he was complicit in his own rape. And probably still wouldn’t describe it as abuse.
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I can’t see the comment about TN, can someone copy/paste?
She deleted it. Shame she can’t stand behind her convictions that he’s a “safe” trainer for her and her daughter.
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omgggggg thanks for sharing.
Amazing how people can ignore the warning signs slapping them in the face.
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