Originally posted by Sswor View Post
On the flip side, I can’t say a damn word about this GM thing (other then here) because I work with these people. To speak up against GM would be career suicide or very near akin to it. These people rule the h/j world and that’s all there is to it. It’s like a snake pit and you have to be very careful how you navigate in it.
Many years ago now there was a wonderful older woman, I’ll call her XYZ, at my daughter’s barn who was one of the top amateur riders in the country and had the nicest, most expensive horses bought from top trainers/show barns. One horse was the national champion the year before. We would laugh at her audacity sometimes, she did exactly what she wanted and no one would dare cross her. One time I remember she flew in Friday morning for her class, stepped out of her limo into a mud puddle from a hard rain the night before, and promptly got back into the limo and left. Never showed. I often saw her pull up if she missed to a jump because if she wasn’t going to win, why make her horse jump any more jumps.
Anyway, there was a younger amateur in the barn who it was whispered was having an affair during the winter circuit with a 17-year-old boy who rode in the jumpers. When XYZ heard the rumor, she promptly went to our trainer and told her she would not tolerate that behavior and to kick the woman out of the barn immediately. I wasn’t sure whether XYZ was upset that the boy was underage or that the woman was married with children–possibly both. Either way, because she had the power the younger amateur went that same day.
At home we shared a facility with another trainer. There was talk that the trainer, a thirty-something man, was sleeping with his fourteen-year-old girl student, and, worse, her mother knew about it and was OK with it. One day XYZ was walking her horse out after a lesson and as she rode by the barn row of the other trainer, she saw the trainer and the girl doing something inappropriate (she never described exactly what) in one of the stalls. She promptly turned around, marched up to the property owner’s house, told him what she saw, and decreed that the trainer was to be kicked out. The trainer was gone within the week.
Too bad we don’t have more people around the show world now like XYZ. She had the right moral compass and was not in the least afraid to speak up or wield her power. Even though our trainer was/is a GM disciple, it would be interesting to see where XYZ would come down on the current situation.