Hey! Nobody got all upset about my story that he screamed at me for not setting jumps up fast enough when I wasn’t even working for a free clinic. I was just auditing.
He should not be kicking people, having them roll in dirt, making nasty personal comments or any of the other uncalled for nasty things he has done in the past, but he really has gotten much better.
It was assault and intentional infliction of emotional distress and shouldn’t be accepted as just fine, but frankly, its is and people even pay for it. Since he was 1,000 times worse 20 years ago then he is now I expect people have been warned and should know what they are getting into. They seem to like it. They sure pay a lot for the privilege.
I had several friends that were close friends of his back in the 80s. I, quite simply, I was not allowed to be around him. They knew if he kicked me in the ass or said something cruel and uncalled for I would have handed it right back to him and that was seen as a bad thing. I can be pretty sure I was one of a very small minority and you don’t see any gold medals in my house because I do not take abuse with a smile. You have to be 100% dedicated to your sport to let people abuse you and pay them for it.
I did make him almost cry once, but I didn’t mean to. However, I often feel very not guilty about that when I hear the stories of how he has humiliated others. There have been threads and posts on COTH telling tales of things that are just unbelievable and people think its funny. I think its like hazing and once you are in you are happy?
I do not think he cruelty is necessary for him to effectively teach riding, but I do think people know about it and actually like it. I think he would make less $$$ if he had always been hugs and sunshine. I am not really sure he can be blamed on acting how he does as long as he is constantly rewarded for it.
And, um, er. . if you ave a totally Independent seat and good balance, does it really matter if you keep putting your hands on the horses neck? If you have been taught to jump with no hands, hands on hips, hands out to side, hands on head then why is the crest release really harmful? The crest release and ducking and laying down on the horse are not the same thing.