I feel for you OP. I am in a very similar situation, but post-surgery. I had my surgery on L4/L5 two years ago. The surgery was successful for four weeks and then the disc herniated again. I got the disc back into place without surgery basically using my picnic table as a decompression table, but I was scheduled to have another surgery to fix it and I was warned I would need a fusion after that. My surgeon said 20% of microdiscectomy/laminectomy surgeries result in reherniation within 3 months and I unfortunately was one of those.
Now I have a lot of chronic pain, but no one can really figure out why. I am seeing a fantastic fascia manipulation doctor (also a sports medicine doc) and while the treatment is literally one of the most painful things I have ever experienced, it is helping with my mobility. She is determined to get to the bottom of what is happening. I was managing okay with anti-inflammatories, but they were destroying my stomach and my doctor wanted me off of them so here I am.
Honestly, if your doc thinks surgery will help I would consider it. As others have recommended, please talk to your doc about gabapentin. I was on it for almost a year leading up to my surgery and it helped a TONNE with my pain. I also think there are minimal side effects (drowsiness I think?) but it had no downsides for me. It could be a game changer for you. Good luck.