I’m having an issue with an otherwise-lovely red-headed mare who is only codependent after being trailered with another horse.
She’s a 5 year old TB rescue that I’ve had since she was 2. I keep her at home where she is turned out with my gelding and a mini mare. She will occasionally get worked up if I’m working my gelding and she feels ignored, but it’s rarely a problem. At home, she’s fine-- even my kids can catch, tie, groom, ride her on their own. When a guest is here, she’s the one I put them on, either leadline or following behind my gelding and I on a hack. She’s a kind soul. When I haul her places solo, she’s about as good as you can expect from a young horse. She’s been nice and quiet at group cross country schoolings and trail riding solo at a new place, standing at the vet, so long as i haul her alone. And if I take my gelding somewhere and leave her at home, she’s fine hanging with the mini.
But if i trailer her someplace with my gelding, she comes off the trailer a totally different beast. Even just the 30 minute trailer ride to the vet gets her so attached that she comes unglued when she’s not with my gelding. I hauled them both to my trainer’s to meet the chiropractor today, and she was insane, pawing and whinnying and dragging me around trying to get to him. I lunged her for a while and could just never get her focus.
This mare has the makings of a real decent horse, and she could be a great kid/husband horse… but this feels like the fatal flaw. I know she’s young, but I’ve never seen codependent mares improve with age.
Any advice on easing her codependency, short of just avoiding the situation? We’re due for the vet soon, and I’m dreading having to handle both of them myself.
Thanks!