Short (comparatively speaking) background: I’m an adult amateur with aspirations in dressage. 12 year old mare, my first horse, purchased in early May. Previous owner had her on the same small backyard farm for 9 years. I have to board, and my trainer works in a VERY large professional barn- actually 5 barns, 4 rings, polo field- you get the picture. Mare seemed bombproof at trial rides to both myself and reputable trainer, but shortly after purchase some behavior issues crept up and I found myself the proud owner of a very intelligent, beautiful, well-trained, but fairly neurotic horse.
She was anxious almost constantly and had gone from solid trail horse to seemingly ring sour. She was not, to my mind, dangerous, but certainly difficult to work with because she is/was constantly on “high alert” and not focused on a handler or rider. I put her in a program with my trainer in addition to working with her myself, so I handled her daily and she was ridden 3x a week by me and 2x by trainer. No progress. She also clashed with my trainer, I believe because she is very sensitive and doesn’t respond well to all styles of discipline. This, combined with repeated (minor) injuries in pasture led me to move her to another, much smaller, barn a month ago.
She handled the transition quite well, and I noticed during her quarantine that she finally seemed really bonded to me. This, of course, was while she was in private turnout. She’s been great overall, new trainer has excellent rapport with her, and we’ve been doing pretty well too. I have always made an effort to be a consistent presence in her routine, so I visit her daily and ride 5x a week. I am not an absentee owner!
Well, last week I had my first fall (from her). Not her fault, someone left a gate open and it swung right into her path- it spooked me too. She walked right back over to where I fell immediately after she stopped running, and I got back on. I’m not seriously injured, but sore for sure.
The fall was Thursday, my trainer rode her Friday, I visited her (in the pasture) Saturday, brought her in and groomed her without doing any work on Sunday, and Monday some family issues reared up by surprise and I never made it to the barn.
Tuesday, I went at night to do some lunge work with her because I’m still a little too banged up to ride. She was a jerk coming in from the pasture, kept stopping (which I’ve seen before), but also tried to circle me (which I haven’t). Not respecting personal space. When I got her to the barn, she was pulling hard on the lead, freaked out on the cross-ties, screaming to the other horses in pasture, and it just didn’t stop. I could barely lead her to the arena. I’m familiar with backing them up when the walk on top of you, but I couldn’t get her to go back 95% of the time tonight. I’ve never shanked this girl with the lead, and she typically rebels with that style of approach. I didn’t feel like it was wise to lunge her when I couldn’t control her on a lead, so I tried walking her around the arena to settle her, and the calling to the horses didn’t stop, I could not get her attention, and I started to see movements in her that made me worry that it wasn’t safe me to be there alone with her like this. She didn’t kick or rear, but the body language and her anxiety level to me seemed to indicate that we could easily get to that point. I struggled to walk her back out to the field and had to leave her halter (breakaway) on because I couldn’t keep her still to remove it safely.
I wasn’t afraid when I fell, and I wasn’t afraid per se tonight, but definitely apprehensive. The calling to the other horses is not something I have ever seen from her before. This level of inattention and disrespect is also drastically worse than what we previously dealt with. So, can a horse get this deeply herd bound in only 3 days of no work? I already emailed my trainer, but hey, I have some cake in the fridge and this is really bothering me, so why not cry on your shoulders?