I wish my horses were so polite! My three horses are on about two acres, no grass since it’s dry CA but plenty of room to move. If I don’t use nets in the feeders, they throw hay out of the feeders to pick through it, use the floor hay as a bathroom, then refuse to eat the floor food because it’s been stepped on and pooped/peed on. When I fed it on the ground, one of my horses would spread the hay out a bit, poop in it to mark it as “his,” and keep eating around it while stepping in the manure, wasting HUGE amounts of hay. And one gelding who would go out of his way to pee in the hay piles if they’re available, despite having multiple soft, no-splash surfaces. Both horses in question lived in stalls for a good portion of their lives prior to coming to me, so I attribute it mostly to them being messy geldings who never really had the option of separating their dining room and bathroom. I also need to have the feeders staggered throughout the field, both to keep them moving around but also because when they’re close together it becomes a DISGUSTING mess of trampled manure and sand and hay. With the feeders spread out they are more inclined to use the bathroom on the way from one feeder to the other, thank god.
So: feeders, with nets, spaced out, year round. Keeps me sane with hay prices peaking around $30/bale.
More related to the OP, I’m really glad you came back to share your journey with Honey despite a lot of the nastiness that went on for like 200 posts. She looks like she’s moving in the right direction with her weight, and she looks really happy. I hope the new boarding situation works superbly for both of you, and best of luck as you navigate through your divorce and hopefully new and better opportunities!