I don’t really want to start a whole big thread about all my issues and waffling and health problems and blahblahblah, but I could really use some help from someone with a more horsey mindset. Anyone feel like playing adviser via email/PM?
The short version is:
I spent 10 years in England, didn’t finish college/uni there for health reasons, got married, he died unexpectedly, moved back to the US (where I grew up) to go back to college and get a degree. Decided to do a film degree because that was what I wanted to do when I finished high school, and it’s interesting, and honestly I wanted to see if I COULD do it, creatively. Haven’t been riding regularly much during that time, but did take dressage lessons very seriously way back before moving to England. Unless something goes terribly wrong, I’m graduating college in a couple of months and I really cannot decide what to do with myself.
Where the horse mindset comes in is that one of the real issues is that I miss horses, I miss having time and money to ride regularly, and I would dearly love one of my own. (As most of us would, I suspect.) If I was perfectly healthy, well, some people don’t have time or money for a horse until they’re close to retirement age, or retired, and that’s just how it works out. (I mean, I do actually really enjoy producing films. It’s a heck of a lot of fun.)
But I’m not - I have an autoimmune form of arthritis and while there are treatments currently that improve things, realistically it’s degenerative and while it’s not likely to kill me, at some point it’s going to be bad enough that the horse thing might be a serious up hill battle - particularly if I haven’t BEEN riding and doing horse stuff regularly. So there’s a big part of me that’s going “but if you wait, what if you just CAN’T DO IT later?!?!” and that’s pretty scary.
So. Anyone feel like they can be useful and help me sort through my brain?
(And yes, that is the short version.)
(Also, for clarification - I have no ambition to work in the hands-on horse industry. If I won the lottery I might buy a stable and then hire help to manage it, but hands-on every day stable management or training or professional riding? No way. Even if I had the skill set, I don’t think my joints could handle that much extra wear and tear day in, day out.)