I am so sorry for your loss 
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I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s never easy.
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I’m so very sorry. It’s heartbreaking.
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I’m so very sorry! It’s such a heartbreak.
I agree with others - don’t make any decisions now because you’re in the middle of the sadness. Just sit with the sadness and give yourself great care. Try to do something for yourself like get a massage if you like that sort of thing. Only time will help the pain pass. IT really sucks, but only time will help the pain pass.
HUGE cyber HUGS to you.
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I’m so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you. {{{Hugs}}}
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Thank you all for your kindness and compassion. To all who have shared stories of similar losses and special horses, I appreciate your memories and experiences.
I am definitely in uncharted waters. I feel like I’ve lost my compass. I had said, hoping she would have a good, long life (horses!), that she was going to be my last. Now that I’m confronted with this reality, I’m not sure I’m ready to live with that. At the same time, there are the realities of modern horsekeeping in a somewhat geographically isolated area—increasingly sparse vet and farrier options, most specifically. To have good farrier care, I have to haul 45 mins to an hour, one way. That became a thing just this spring, and I had been thinking how much that arrangement was going to suck in the middle of a late winter nor’easter dumping sideways rain at 33 degrees (compared to the relative comfort of when a farrier would still come to the farm).
So, I’m not sure what I will do. For now, I’ll just do nothing and take care of the one boarder I just recently found to keep my mare company. It would be a good time to go through my tack shed and clean out all but the necessities I would need if I end up bringing another horse home.
As many of you suggest, taking my time and letting myself rest in this new reality is probably the best thing right now. Horses always end up showing up if they’re meant to be with you.
Thanks again, everyone.
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Please check in with us and let us know how you’re doing. I’ve been horseless for three years now, since my 38 year old gelding died. I still miss him every day. It’s a difficult transition after years of life being focused around getting to the barn every day. We feel your pain and are here for you whenever you need us. 
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Well, I ordered a Beachbody bike (kind of like a pelaton) because I’m doing absolutely nothing physical. I’m not sure how one horse can keep you moving, but one horse certainly can keep you moving.
Today I made myself go out and replace some electric fence tape (a chore that had been on my list to accomplish this summer) and check insulators. In one way it felt pointless (even though there is one horse here who needs to be safely cared for), but in another way it felt good to be doing work. It was familiar. It was productive.
I think I’ve decided to not actively shop for a horse until possibly next spring. I’m going to give myself the winter to rest. I hate winter horsekeeping anyway…lol. So, if I make it to next March or April and still feel kind of lost, I’m going to start looking again.
Thank you, again, for your kindness. It meant (and means) a lot to me.
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Echoing what other said. This too shall pass. But personally know this falls on deaf ears. This isn’t goodbye it’s a. See you later. Horses come in and out of our lives for a reason. Just think about what future unicorn will pop into your life for the better 
jingles.
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You need to team up with Sinmeido, Heinz_57 and 2bayboys, get them hunting for you. Seems like there are some very nice horses out there that just FALL into some people’s laps!!
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I am fortunate to have had a few of them fall in my lap myself, including this mare. Blessed.
