Horses will break your heart

This is just a vent of emotion, I’m not looking for anything other than some place to put my emotions. I laid my OTTB mare to rest this past August. She had been diagnosed with a rare form of cancer last year. Trust my lovely drama queen to have the most rare form of cancer a horse can have. She wanted to go out in style I guess. Shortly after I was able to bring my daughter’s pony home. I’d been casually shopping for this pony for long while, but finally just bought the pony I had always wanted as a little girl. She everything I wanted for my daughter and more, and she’s eased the ache that my mare left behind.

My OTTB gelding, the quiet, lazy, cuddly, lovely beast has notoriously bad front feet, flat, thin soled, can’t physically tolerate shoes. I’ve struggled with his feet the entire time I’ve had him but his brain and personality make up for it. But lately, he’s been off on his front right (the worst of the two). I did everything in my own power to bring him sound. My farrier did everything she could.

As of right now he has a vet appointment, for a lameness exam and some new rads of his feet, next week and a visit from a farrier who specializes in theraputic shoeing so that we can try to figure out a plan to make my boy happy again, glue on shoes maybe. But the nagging worry and anxiety of what the vet might find is driving me crazy. I am praying it isn’t navicular.

Go hug your ponies, rub their velvet noses, and press your face in to their neck. Don’t ever take a day spent with them for granted. Thanks for the passive ear.

hugs

Whenever I see the “horses will break your bones but not your heart” meme I scoff. They absolutely break your heart. I had a very similar gelding that I tried for nearly 8 years to get and keep sound. I laid him to rest in January of this year and I haven’t sat on a horse since. You are not alone, and whatever decision you make will be the right one. Feel free to message me if you need an ear.

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Sorry for the loss of your mare.
About your gelding’s feet, I’m going through the same thing with my welsh pony. He has thin soles, can’t shoe because he need sedation, hoof boots he hates… and so on. Just had more x-rays last month. He is getting glue on shoes next and I’m hoping for the best. I’ll keep my fingers crossed that they find a solution for your guy.

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I’m so very sorry for your worry. You’re not alone. Hugs.

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So sorry for your loss. Losing your horse is devastating and heart wrenching. I put my heart horse down 3 years ago and I still choke up thinking about it. They should last forever 💔

Hugs.
The real Buck just passed away 2 weeks ago. He was 40 and beautiful and fat and sound up until his last day. He went peacefully, quietly, quickly. I couldn’t have asked for more. But the horse-shaped hole in my heart is so overwhelming, I struggle to breathe sometimes.

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I’m sorry :cry:

So sorry for all you are going through. When my heart horse died from an aneurysm it took me a long time to move on. Not sure you ever get over it, but I have been lucky to have found some different horses who are wonderful in their own ways.

In terms of shoeing, glue-ons were like a miracle solution for my OTTB. Not only do they stay on (they ended up being not that much more expensive than regular shoes because they stay on longer), but he loved the padding they gave him. He wore Sigafoos and the rim pad made him much more comfortable. He’s retired now, so I’m not keeping shoes on him, but they were worth every penny.

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hugs We’re so lucky to have them in our lives. They shape us and change us for the better. May your mare rest in peacefulness. <3

If you have them long enough, and love them well, you are so right, they will break your heart. Some, you cannot help but miss more than others.

My well taped together heart will cheerfully lend you my heart glue. Hugs!