Not to hijack OP’s thread but, gosh, isn’t this the hard truth? I feel personally victimized by this comment :lol:.
I had a successful career as a junior: multiple horses, young riders, FEI competitions, etc. I didn’t know how I would sustain this as an adult, paying my own way. I did a few stints as a working student and decided against trying the pro route. I went into law because when I was growing up my trainer’s husband was a lawyer. He rode 5-6x/week, usually during his lunch breaks on weekdays. He had a very nice, expensive horse competing at the upper levels. “Great, I’ll do that!” I said. What I didn’t understand is that he was a well-established partner at a large law firm, had already put in maybe a decade of 60-80 hour workweeks to get there, and wasn’t paying all the same costs since his wife was the trainer. Also, law school wasn’t nearly as expensive then as it is now.
Anyway, I ended up choosing a legal career which is sort of in the mid-range both in terms of pay and work-life balance. It’s fine, but I realize I probably work too much and earn too little to get myself back to the same level I was competing as a junior. I try not to dwell on it, and to just be grateful for the opportunities I do have (which I recognize many others do not).
OP - I totally get that making time to ride is hard when work is busy, but as people here are saying, you need that time in the saddle if you really want to progress. If you do a lease or half lease, you should have more flexibility about when you can ride versus being constrained by your trainer’s lesson schedule, school horse availability, etc. Even if you’re just hacking at 6:00 AM on a Monday morning before work or squeezing in a quick ride over lunch, or this will help a lot.