How long to be reimbursed?

[Bebe_Falcon1]

@Impractical_Horsewoman

If the BO is short or feels the OP “owes” her a favor she could at least be upfront about it.

Agreed, but as it is, I pick fields, patch hay nets, clean up after myself, pay board on time, and don’t create drama. I think I’m a pretty great boarder as far as boarders go.

If it weren’t a consumable item (supplement) then yes, I’d probably hustle it outta there Plus, removing it would affect the diet of the BO/BM’s horse, which I don’t want to do.

It’s not a huge sum of money, but combined with all the free labour I do around the place, the situation is making me start to feel a little … “used”.

[Impractical_Horsewoman]

Yeah, this is starting to sound like a pattern. I agree about setting boundaries ASAP!

[trubandloki]

I am not sticking up for this non-paying person.

I can not be the only one who is electronic payment challenged.

I can no longer get into my paypal or my venmo because I forgot my password and using the forgot my password option is not working.

[endlessclimb]

Raises hand me too.

Paypal is the only one I know how to use, and even that is murky. Venmo/cashapp/etc no. I still write checks to nearly all of my equine service providers, the rest get paid cash.

Two examples lately that left me befuddled:

An intern at work fronted me money for a work lunch once. I tried to pay him cash the next day and he said no, Venmo. I told him take the cash or take a “thank you for the lunch.”

At a show recently, a woman had lost her checkbook. The show organizer got all her students together, younger girls but old enough they should know, and told them to scour the barns for a check book. The look of confusion on their faces when they asked “what’s a checkbook?” Gahhh nooooo.

[Jo]

@endlessclimb

The look of confusion on their faces when they asked “what’s a checkbook?

Literally the ONLY thing I write checks for are board and farrier. It was only recently that I took my checkbook out of my purse “because what if.”

My 17 year old son only knows about checks because his grandparents give him one for his birthday. I’m sure it has never occurred to him that he may have to WRITE ONE one day!

Hooligans!

[Tha_Ridge]

@endlessclimb

Paypal is the only one I know how to use, and even that is murky. Venmo/cashapp/etc no. I still write checks to nearly all of my equine service providers, the rest get paid cash.

Venmo and Cash app are wildly easier than PayPal.

Send this person a Venmo request and be done with it. I buy things for my trainer/barn owner all the time. I send a Venmo request with a texted picture of the receipt in the payment, and she typically pays me within the day, if not an hour. The quick payment and the fact that we don’t let it meddle in my board/training bills makes it all super easy to deal with and I’m happy to help her.

[Impractical_Horsewoman]

I’m always surprised that some people who run horse-related businesses are still holding out on electronic payments. I’m usually slower on the uptake to write a check for anything (obviously, I always pay on time) because of the hassle of getting out my book, writing the damn thing, and then sending it out (sometimes). It also prevents the “I’ll get the check to you as soon as I get out to the barn” excuse. Plus, avoids the hassle of the person receiving it to make sure it doesn’t get eaten by a horse or wet before being put into an account.

[Tha_Ridge]

Yup. I ran into this with my horses’ bodywork person. She wanted cash, which I virtually never have. At least not in the amount that I need to pay her. I also live an hour away from the barn, she comes twice a month, so ultimately, her desire for cash impeded how quickly she got paid. We figured out a non-cash solution when I explained that I could literally pay her invoice in about 30 seconds if she’d let me.

[Impractical_Horsewoman]

Yes! I feel the same way! It’s so frustrating when people make it difficult to pay! I rode at a barn that only accepted checks and cash, and I didn’t want to pay for an entire lesson package with cash (especially for fear of it getting misplaced). It was like, “oh no, gotta find that dusty black book again.”

[OnDeck]

@endlessclimb

An intern at work fronted me money for a work lunch once. I tried to pay him cash the next day and he said no, Venmo. I told him take the cash or take a “thank you for the lunch.”

I relate to this. I would never refuse someone’s cash in that situation but cash is worthless to me. I have nowhere to put it, I don’t carry a wallet, and I will never spend it. The ONLY reason I withdraw cash is if I’m going to a horse show and think the food booth may be cash only. I must have close to $100 cash in my laundry room that I pulled out of breeches pockets after those shows. I just consider it an emergency fund at this point. My father thinks I’m crazy.

[hoopoe]

@Bebe_Falcon1

t’s not a huge sum of money, but combined with all the free labour I do around the place, the situation is making me start to feel a little … “used”.

bingo

you are a customer buying a service
you are not a best friend forever
you are not free labor
you are not there to prop up her business or oversee / assure her horse gets proper diet

this pattern is repeated over and over, the forum has discussed constantly for the last 22 years

kiss your money goodbye and reconsider how your relationship within this barn is to continue

she will move on and find some other good natured person to give her free things