Thank you all so much for taking the time to reply. @findeight I’m worried that because I was “working” at this barn and am fairly close to this trainer she’ll make it much more difficult for me to make a clean getaway. She also had me sell my perfectly good saddle to buy a different saddle because she insisted I needed a new saddle. But she never lets me use my own saddle… She had been letting me lesson on a more challenging horse (not a schoolie) for a good while and I was in a semi-private with another woman on a very nice show animal. Until a few weeks ago she took me off the non-schoolie and told me I needed to ride in a different semi-private group because I was holding back the other adult from progressing since school horses can’t do what her horse was needing to work on. So now I’m in a group of the other adults who toodle around and get yelled at.
However, I have contacted another barn and trainer at the advice of a woman who left my barn about a year ago. She said leaving the barn was harder than her divorce… yikes!!! I actually found out that two other riders at this barn have moved to the same place. I’m going for a trial lesson this Saturday! And I’m supposed to lesson at my current barn on Sunday… I’m thinking if it goes poorly again, I will have to suck it up and tell her I’m done. On the bright side, I’m out of town every weekend until mid-november so I think I actually will be able to make a clean break.