I met a teenager I truly admire . .

My farrier was out yesterday with his daughter (HS Junior). We were chatting --I’ve known her dad since he was 14 and in 4-H with my kids. Her dad said, “Show Foxglove your video!” She did --video of a beautiful QH, doing all kinds of lovely things every horse should do --nicely made video by her brother. At the end the video said the horse was for sale --she’s had the gelding for about a year. Under her dad’s supervision, she’s done a ton of training --although she told me “That horse taught me more than I taught him.”

Then her dad showed me a video of a 4-Star LQ trailer (four horse) --looked almost knew --he said “My client had this for sale,” and (dramatic pause), “my daughter bought it with the money she got for selling that horse!” --the daughter already has another horse she’s training --another QH. She said she really likes training. She shows a bit at the 4-H level, does really well, but mostly just works with the horse she has at the time.

I admire my shoer a lot. He’s got three kids, stay at home wife --farms cattle and hay --shoes --and all the of his kids became successful in HS —oldest started a farm equipment parts and delivery service (something breaks and you are making hay, he’ll run the part out to you and help you fix it on the spot) that became a warehouse for farm machinery parts. Now at 19 he’s employing others to take the parts and fix things . . .doing well and had a few offers to sell his business. Second son sells breeding and breeding goats --that is one lucrative business --he’s a senior in HS. Has a truck and trailer he bought and takes his goats all over the US selling and buying.

And now the daughter is training horses.

FWIW --they don’t have a TV --never have. Kids do use computers, but I gather it’s pretty much for business. He said they make it a point to have dinner together every night when at all possible.

Everyone helps with the hay --he’s my hay guy too–all the kids and the wife come when he brings my winter supply and work together to put it in the mow.

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Sounds like a lovely family. Each has their own niche.

Dinners together is a really healthy thing for families. Our rule is no phones at the table. We discuss topics in the news, how our day went, plans, or things we all share.

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What a great family to grow up in.
I got the message from my parents that Life was not a free ride.
Started working after school at 14 & folks took 1/2 my paycheck for college, 1/2 the rest for Room & Board. With the remaining 1/4, I still felt like I was living high. Payed my own way to fun things with friends & bought “stuff” without having to ask for money.
That lesson has stayed with me.
Grasshopper though I am, with little savings, but bills get paid & 3 horses live off my dime :grin:

When did parents stop raising kids like mine & @Foxglove 's?

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and life is not fair

That is why we had our kids showing horses from a young age, they learned how to deal with failures/rejections in a controlled environment. They learned how to handle success also.

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@clanter, life really isn’t fair. I think that’s one of the best lessons one can learn.

our kids had old style Morgans that they showed nationally, some judges would pin a poorly preforming newer style horse before them even though their horse had been falseness

It was pretty hard to use those incidents as a way to teach them how to overcome such events, but they did learn how to look at these “failures” to figure out what could have been done.

Seemed to work as our kids are now middle agers who all have been successful navigating life.

It appears OP’s farrier family has done a great job working with their kids

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100% agree and it’s so hard to teach.

Sounds like a great teenager with an amazing head on her shoulders.

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There are a lot of good , hardworking kids and young adults out there. Sadly we never really hear about the good stuff anymore.

Nothing beats hardworking parents who not only teach those values to their kids but they model them as well.

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DH and I supported our daughter through college, including paying for her undergrad education without taking out loans. We did not want her working too much while in school; she did a double major in three years. Her last year at college, she did work ten hours a week in a computer lab, but that was mostly because she wanted the experience. It was helpful as she has a side gig these days doing computer stuff.

She told us as soon as she graduated that she could pay her own expenses. She has not asked us for money since then. (And she never had to ask while she was in school–we just made sure she had everything she needed, including money for fun stuff.) We do help her out on some things these days, such as paying for major car maintenance or plane tickets to someplace fun as a birthday or Christmas present. But she will not ask, and is very appreciative of anything we choose to do for her.

I am very proud of her work ethic.

Rebecca

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