The CL folks are another category…moving, can’t take cat with us…really? A cat can’t go in a cat carrier in a car to wherever the heck you are moving to?
Coming in late. . . I just want to say be brave and know you have a lot of support her at COTH. If it helps I will tell you that my husband and I have made out a will and we are having all our animals put down including a very healthy young Tb mare that is being ridden by someone that will definitely take her to Rolex if all goes well. Is this fair? You bet. What if this person gets our mare and then something happens to her and the mare goes lame etc etc etc?
I never want my animals to ever live any other way than the way we treat them. Euthanasia is for us the highest act of kindness we can afford them. It sounds like you ar3e getting everuthing in order, but I thought I would just give you my thoughts.
Lots of love and good thoughts from all of my animals and me!
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Thanks Trak. I hear ya, believe me. I have my game face on.
You’re right, I’m doing all that I can for ALL of us (except my husband, he’s on his own…well, he’s not rolls eyes, but he’s not getting my help or energy). We also have 3 large dogs, that are 13 years old - I hate that they don’t understand where he is, but they’re the last of his worries. Can you tell I’m moving in to the pissed off stage now?
No worries, the dogs aren’t going anywhere.[/QUOTE]
Get pissed, get even and even though the saying is “revenge is a dish best served cold”…I’m a big fan of hot revenge too!
Typically, a guy won’t leave unless he’s got someone waiting for him. There are good uses for private eyes and bank/accounting specialists to track mystery spending. If he’s got hobbies, they’re something to even out horse expenses.
Has he shown any interest in his daughter or the dogs? If not, he really does show he’s got a girlfriend.
You’re a smart cookie Trak ;). (edited) she’s performing in her regionals and semi state competitions.
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And Wendy, did no one ever tell you if you can’t say anything nice it’s best not to say anything at all? Your opinion is neither wanted nor needed.[/QUOTE]
But Wendy is perfect, or didn’t you know that? Because rarely does she miss an opportunity to make that point.
Thank god we have her here to remind us all of our shortcomings and give us a standard towards which we all can aspire.
Looking in on you ~ don’t mean to bother ~ ((hugs))
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Looking in on you ~ be brave & smart ~ know you will ~
Plan your work and work your plan ~
Here’s to a productive week with some
Halloween fun for you and your daughter ~
BUT no Spooks !!! :eek:
** anyone seen or heard from Wendy ?! [/I]
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** anyone seen or heard from Wendy ?! [/QUOTE]
This is a busy week … being halloween and all. She’s dusting off the old broom and getting the kettle ready to cook some kids…
Thanks again for the levity.
Not horse related here but Saturday was a tough day. My daughter had a huge band competition and we were gone all day for that. They fought hard as marching bands do, but did not qualify for state since the other bands are double their size. It was a great season though. On our way home I found out that my brother wasn’t expected to live through the night. We sat in the driveway and cried and cried…we were sitting in my brothers truck, my daughter was wearing his dog tags (he’s in Abu Dhabi and too sick to come home, we spent some time over there in July with him and skyped daily). We gathered ourselves and went inside…my husband had come in while we were gone and took all of the antique furniture. Including her dresser. In fact, he took 2 of the 3 dressers, leaving her and I with one.
Sunday, I said goodbye to my brother over Skype. He was only functioning on 16% brain function but he reacted to my voice and image on the screen. Heart wrenching, does not even describe the weekend.
Some good news though, is that I’ve talked to the previous owners of the TB mare (that I wanted to keep, but…) and they are going to take her back. I will then shift that spot to my STB to keep with my Arab since I truly worry about her, since STB’s are always at risk, even when they’re healthy :(. The Arab and the STB are BFF’s anyway.
I’m so very, very sorry. {{{{HUGS}}} to you and your daughter and your brother.
So sorry I didn’t mention this days ago - I was going to ask if you’d changed your locks and suggest that you do it immediately.
(edited) I never thought he would do this. Then again, I also thought he was faithful.
It is hard to believe a man would take the dresser his own daughter keeps her clothes in.
So sorry you are going thru this.
I am so very sorry, OP. What a jerk your ex is. Change your locks immediately. Your attorney has given you advice about protecting your money as best you can, right? Shut down any joint account access immediately if you haven’t already and make sure you know what is in his retirement accounts, etc.
BTW, make sure you make a list of everything he took right away while it is still fresh is your mind, you should get 1/2 the value of all those antiques. Price them out online. I bet you can make him regret it! Some of them are likely “worth” a lot more than they are worth to him. That’s what he gets for being such an a$$ as to take his own daughter’s dresser. Who does that?
Deepest condolences on your brother. When it rains, it pours.
I’m so sorry about your brother, Hundacres and I’m sorry that you are having to go through all this. I can’t believe your husband would take furniture away from his own daughter. What an ass.
Godspeed. Hugs to you and yours.
He will make it really hard not to paint him as a jerk…:no:
How much of the silver did he take…
(If you were here I’d give you my dresser…I am not using it)
(((( hugs ))))
I am so sorry to hear about your brother.
Check to make sure he hasn’t taken important paperwork as well - mortgage, vehicle registrations, back statements, income tax returns. Make at least two copies, and keep one set with someone trustworthy off site.
First and foremost, I am sorry about your brother.
That man you are currently married to is a donkey’s behind. If you like, we can beat him up for you. JKG I’m sure we can come up with a pox just for him. Maybe something that even Viagra can’t help.
I am happy to hear that things are working out on the horse front. Stand strong. I know it doesn’t seem like it now, but you will get through this.
your ex sucks. he has some kind of nerve to come in the house and take stuff when you are not there. esp your daughter’s stuff. jerk move.
I’m so sorry about your brother…at least you got to say goodbye.
Took the antique furniture? That is really not a guy thing to do (yeah, I know, stereotyping…but it’s true.) I’m a guy and I can tell the difference between Jacobian and Georgian but I sure wouldn’t be going into my abandoned wife’s house to steal antique furniture…there is a girl (boy?) in his life.
Phew! To paraphrase Sun Tzu, “When your enemy is destroying himself, get out of the way” Got to admit, he is giving you so much ammunition to make him look like a self-centred ass.
Funny how he didn’t take one of the dogs…hmmmm, girlfriend.
I ran into my sister one day, she had a black eye. Being an older brother I asked her how that happened. She finally admitted her husband did it (but if she didn’t make him mad etc. etc. etc.). I got my biggest and meanest looking black friend, and off we went to visit Don while my sister was elsewhere. Amazing how the threat of what would happen if my sister ever had an injury (and a minor application of pain…OK, a major application). Don left the next day, he just couldn’t stand the idea of not being able to hit her under the threat of S.S.S. She did ask me if I said anything to him…“Nope, not a word” I said. I can’t stand bullies and nobody hits my sister.
OP…you have a big brother? :mad:
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First and foremost, I am sorry about your brother.
That man you are currently married to is a donkey’s behind. If you like, we can beat him up for you. JKG I’m sure we can come up with a pox just for him. Maybe something that even Viagra can’t help.
I am happy to hear that things are working out on the horse front. Stand strong. I know it doesn’t seem like it now, but you will get through this.[/QUOTE]
Divorce is ugly. Everyone is upset. But have some basic human decency, man! No excuse for piling onto a bad situation with your insensitive, completely obtuse actions.
And don’t EVEN get me started on men who think they are also divorcing their children, and can act the same towards them!! :mad:
