First, I was surprised that my salary makes me Middle Class in my area according to the Pew app because I work for a state agency and my salary seems very low to me (I live alone—no kids or SO).
But if I had a house payment, and my BO wasn’t charging my two retired girls the same board I paid 15 years ago when I moved in, I probably would struggle to keep them.
Yes, he subsidizes my hobby, even though I offer to pay more in board every year and always get turned down. (I do buy their feed and alfalfa pellets because they need high calorie food to keep their weight up.) I also pay the barn worker cash for every nice thing he does for me.
I’m 100% sure, though, that new boarders who have moved in pay substantially more, so he’s not running a charity! I think he just likes my longterm loyalty, plus my girls take very little work to keep and don’t contribute wear and tear to the arenas and covered round pen.
Second, my parents bought me whatever I wanted as a child, including a starter pony and then a large pony that won regularly in the large pony hunters. They also paid for my college education and bought me a car, but never taught me about money management.
Nonetheless, I knew without being told that once I graduated I was responsible for all my expenses. It seemed obvious to me that once you’re a grownup you pay your own way and live within your means.