It was the tone and excessive explanation, not the question itself, that has taken people aback here.
She admits they have never discussed it, and she is imagining an expectation that has not even been presented (yet). Sure boarder could show up for the lesson and be a real booger snot about why the jumps aren’t set, or confused, or just start setting the jumps. No one knows because we only have OP’s side, that there has been no communication. If the boarder showed up in a post, “I board here, I’ve known the BO my whole life, she lessons before me so the jumps have always already been set, today I showed up and the jumps weren’t set because she didn’t have a lesson, and it made me late into my lesson, I wish I had gotten a heads up, am I wrong?” we would have all said the BO should have communicated with her. Some posters would have commented that she should have been helping all along, etc, or that she should be reaching out weekly, but most would say if X has always been a certain way and anyone one person who knew beforehand that X wasn’t happening, that person has the responsibility to let anyone else affected know.
Yes perhaps.
That’s a strong comment, do you lesson everywhere with every trainer? I have a trainer who comes to my private barn to teach me and sometimes a friend and her child if they want to do a lot of pole work, and she will move jumps and poles.