Thank you everyone for taking the time to respond! I had a break thru with my boy after having some struggles this week! I think by trying not to use the inside rein I eliminated my lateral flexion. So basically I am now back to vertical flexion because pushing him to the outside rein only gave me the option to half halt him with the outside rein and this would be vertical flexion.
Netg: thanks for the suggestion because I just tried, what the heck, going back to using my inside flexing rein and opening up my outside right rein giving him a place to go and bingo, he went into my outside rein. OMG now I can let go of the inside and feel his floaty movements.
To start he was stretching his nose down and coming across his back with an elastic contact in the reins. He decided to stretch. He was really stretching and tracking beautifully behind. I thought this would be a great ride since it was his decision to really stretch thru his back. But go to the trot and boom, he started getting balky when I asked him to move over to the outside rein with my inside leg. I felt limited to vertical flexion only. And then I used my inside flexing rein, the thing I have been trying to avoid, and he went to the outside rein and he started feeling really supple. I had reviewed thru my notes that I take after lessons and my trainer keeps repeating that in order for the horse to go on the hind end the horse has to be supple thru the ribcage. And that was the key. Not using my inside rein left me open to vertical flexion only and my horse feels a bit bully in this kind of flexion only. Now I can let go and keep him in an elastic contact on my outside rein. He felt lovely on the outside rein.
suzieQnutter: it seems like just using enough inside flexion rein to get him over to the outside rein is the key. (but not hanging on it. But not using it puts me at only vertical flexion only) And the figure 8s really helped me keep changing up the bend increasing his suppling as I continue my ride.
Chantal: if I tap him off the inside shoulder, it seems like I was just pushing him to the outside rein and he was bracing, not bending in the ribcage around my leg. The flexion rein, broke up the bracing and wala, he is moving into my outside rein now.
CanteringCarrot: I know that if I don’t do the proper work I will be wasting this lovely horse. He has all the right parts from his breeding, but he doesn’t have the strength yet and I tend to lose sight of the fact that I can have some hard moments. He has been so easy to work with and so willing and fun and having a difficult moment to get thru this issue of getting him on my outside rein can be discouraging. I am definitely trying the alternating leg yields to increase suppleness.]
Merrygoround: I get discouraged when articles and videos show you what to do like recycle the energy. It looks so great. Just do this and this is what you get and then you try it and no one tells you what to do if the horse refuses to move forward or swings his hips to avoid, or blows you off in the half halt. My trainer does tell me what to do, but if I encounter a problem when she is not there, I have to figure it out or then just not ride for 10 days and that seems like a waste.
Tequilamockingbird: it seems like neglecting the flexion rein left me only open to vertical flexion. I push with inside leg, my horse moves his weight onto the outside rein and hangs. What next? Use a little flexion left rein to keep his head bent properly to the inside, push him to an open inviting right rein with my inside leg and suddenly I feel the bracing in the ribcage end.
Zingaro: No I don’t want to fight with my young horse! I feel like I am ruining him if I do and he is the nicest horse I have ever owned. I want to keep him that way! The visual of withers and shoulder upright is a very good one. Getting them to point to the sky, makes you think about using your body to achieve it vs. use this rein, use that rein. My visual keeps coming to this. Move him over with my right thigh to get him to stand up. he seems to be weighting my right thigh now. And once I get him standing up he has no curve in his spine. So use the flexion rein combined with inside thigh and send him to the open inviting right rein and suddenly I feel I can let go of my inside left rein. I know he is leaning on his left shoulder and swinging his hips right, but if I push first with my inside left thigh he seems to swing his hips more right. I feel like I need to make him bear weight on the left shoulder and then ask him to bend at the ribcage.
Twinmommy: he is doing very well with turn on the forehand. I start at first on the ground. Pressing at the girth and holding the opposite outside rein and ask him to cross over. With inside hind. He used to not cross going to the left. But now he is. I will try your exercises. And thanks! He is really very lovely. He is such a beautiful mover and he is so safe to ride. I can ride him on trails by himself and he is so easy to handle.