So sorry for Tamara and the whole family. How horrible.
This was shocking enough to hear and now that I’ve seen the update about what happened I am enraged as well. Tamara I wish there were some way we could turn the clock back and erase this horrible, senseless tragedy. Without even meeting you I know you and Calvin were a special pair.
Tamara, to you and your whole family… I am another one who only knew you and Calvin through COTH postings but it sounded as if your husband was a gift to not only you and his family but also to the horse community at large through your postings…
I am so sorry to hear about this senseless tragedy and I hope all of you find peace. You will be in my prayers. 
Please accept my deepest condolences on your loss. It had been my pleasure to speak with Calvin at least twice a week during the last month or so regarding procuring a low sugar hay for my IR horse. In fact I had an appointment to call him tomorrow morning regarding a test on some hay that came in this week. He was so kind and helpful, trying his best to get the type of hay I needed. This is a senseless tragedy for which there is no explanation. I am so very sorry.
May she find moments of peace in the next few days and may the good memories sustain her in the future.
Very sad. Very tragic. So not fair.
My deepest condolences and prayers. Your love for him was obvious.
I can’t help thinking of a song a community chorale I’m in did last fall for a 10-year 9/11 anniversary ceremony. Words from Song of Solomon.
“Set me as a seal upon your heart,
As a seal upon your arm,
For love is strong as death.”
When someone sent me the news yesterday I just screamed out loud. I have known Tamara for many years, and I could not wrap my mind around this horrible and tragic loss. Such a GOOD man.
The one thing I want to share here is something that comforts me. It was written by David Spangler. I think that one thing we can all do is to shape this energy for good, in whatever way we can, to bless the lives of those still present on earth. Calvin was, and remains, a great soul.
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“…whenever a death occurs, for whatever reason, whether peacefully or in violence, an energy of spirit is released. An incarnational portal is opened, just as it is at birth. This energy is neutral or perhaps I should say, unformed. It is a gift that flows between the worlds. What is shaped from this gift is up to those who receive it, as well as by the one whose death has released it. Think of this energy the way your biologists and doctors think of a stem cell: it is capable of being shaped and particularized in many ways.
When a death occurs peacefully or as an act of courage and sacrifice, or when the one dying does so in a loving or blessingful way, then this energy is given a spin in a certain direction and can be a source of blessing for others. It lends itself to being shaped in positive ways.
Think of this energy as a kind of inheritance. It is a gift from the dead, a gift from the dying. It is a gift to life, even, you may say, a gift of life that can add to and bless the lives of those who remain physically embodied. Not all inheritances are spent wisely or well, not all gifts are used with grace and blessing, but the gift itself is there nonetheless.”
~David Spangler
Tamara - Hugs and prayers to you and your children during this difficult time. There are no words for such a senseless tragedy.
Laurie
Hugs and prayers for Tamara and family.
Tamara, I am so very sorry for your loss. Sending thoughts and prayers to you and your family.
Warm thoughts and prayers and jingles to all in this awful situation.
"Some men leave their mark
on the world
by the way they live
and the difference they make
in the lives they touch.
Let each tear that falls
be a gentle reminder
that you and your husband
truly loved each other,
and made such a meaningful difference
in each other’s lives -
and that is a gift
that no loss or sorrow,
or time or distance
can ever take away."
In Sympathy,
Cristy & the boys at HBF
Still praying for you and your family. Things will get worse before they get better, but I promise…they do get better (so I hear…)
How sickening. I have no additional sentiments than those that have been shared. The COTH arms are wide and open for a hug to attempt to comfort you.
Thoughts and prayers to Tamara, her children and the rest of her family. Absolutely unimaginable how someone could do such a thing.
adding my condolences to all those before me, prayers for you and your entire family <3
Devastating. I wish there were something, anything, that could be said. Thinking of you and yours, Tamara.
I’m so very sorry for your loss.
You and your family are in our prayers.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Oh Tamara, I wish there were words to make it better… I can only offer my deepest sympathy for you and your children in this senseless loss of your very loved husband and children’s dear father.
May time and the love of your friends here and everywhere make it more bearable. You never ‘get over’ a loss like this…but you get used to it.
