As someone with similar anxiety issues, there are a few things that worked for me. For reference,I went training level a good few years ago on a nice horse and am just now (after 4 or so years showing with my current horse) getting to Novice again. Just started jumping 3’ again two weeks ago.
1 - pick something to look up at and practice practice practice. Start with crossrails, line yourself up then make sure you are staring at the window/post/trainer/cat that is in the direct line. Once you are good over one jump, make simple courses so you have to remember time and again.
2 - Well fitting tack. When I was in my old jumper saddle that no longer worked for me, I unconciously spent most of my time staying in the middle and not with my horse. New saddle…huge difference.
3 - Again…practice practice practice and no rushing life! Once I got my new saddle, I spent an entire winter going to a jumper show at 2’3". We were a hot mess at first, but then we started to click after the 7th or so show It was 2 shows at 2’6" in early spring so I started mixing in some BN Events. We moved to 2’9" last August but hung out there for a year and like I said, just started jumping 3’ last week. For some reason 2’6" was a small step but I needed to plateau again at 2’9" and will probably spend all winter at 3’.
4 - Don’t worry about being a hot mess at a new level! Like I said…just moved to 3’ and had an opportunity to go to the jumper show at the local county fair. My horse did NOT like the banners on the fenceline (not even a breeze, they were just hanging there mind their own business). So, trot first fence because to busy spooking, squirrely turn to fence 2, start to get it together on fence 3…wait…that wasn’t fence 3, off course! I requested to finish the course, which was allowed and there was this “scary” liverpool fence. It was at an angle so the right turn were were supposed to make was the sharper turn but I was staring straight ahead at the post. We jumped it beautifully but I had to do a left turn 270 to get back on track. Got lost again, told the judges I was going to jump 1 more and call it a class.
Second class went better but for $20/class definitely worthy being a hot mess on that day.
4 - Mind over matter. Every time I my brain starts to point out the disasters, I high light the successes - like scary liverpool. We had never jumped a jump like that before. Or remember that time I was feeling froggy last summer out cross country schooling and jumped a training level jump. Or the fact that my horse jumped everything great when I had my eyes up. Or…Or…just don’t dwell on the bad things visualize the GOOD that happened. Even if you have to chant out loud to yourself, “we did this exact course last week without issue…we did this exact course last week without issue” or “We jumped that scary jump in a lesson that’s higher than these…we jumped that scary jump in a lesson that’s higher than these…”
5 - related to that…quit while you are ahead. Sometimes, after I jump a new height or a scary looking jump, I just do it once. I did it once, it went well, move on. My trainer was always bit about this cross country schooling and it works in that you don’t get that sucess performance anxiety and screw up royally the 5th time and have to get over that. Let’s say 2’9" is the new height. I may set up one jump to 2’9" and the rest at 2’6". Warm up, jump a small course of 2’6" with the 2’9" one being last, untack, go home…so what if it was a 10 min ride, it was all that was needed that day.
Fingers crossed, I will do at least one Novice level HT by the end of the season!