My palms were sweating while reading this thread, as I was wondering if some people we had come to look at a mare would chime in here. Here’s my perspective (I’m absolutely positive that they would tell a very different version of the story :lol: ):
So we have a nice little mare for sale that we’re advertising as a Dressage or Event prospect, great all around horse, nice to hack out, average mover but pretty, pretty, pretty, looks like a Breyer model (super refined palomino with a stark white mane and tail, blaze, etc.). Sugar sweet on the ground, but very green and sensitive, pretty straightforward and good minded but NOT a kick/pull ride (which we have been completely up front about to all interested parties).
People call, super interested for their 18 yr old daughter who wants to bring along a green horse, used to jump but wants to eventually do mid level Dressage, been riding all her life, yada yada yada, horse would be in a training barn, sounds like a decent fit so we set up an appointment.
Mother and daughter show up, daughter sort of nervously leering in the background, won’t go up to the mare to pet her and hasn’t checked her out, hasn’t asked any questions, kind of odd but whatever. I get on the mare, warm her up, take her over some crossrails, she feels good so I ask the girl if she wants to get on.
Before getting on, I give the girl a few words of advice (no pulling or yanking, light calf squeezes are all the leg you need, no heel, talk to her etc) and just get a deer in the headlights look, doesn’t ask any questions, and gets on the horse and proceeds to hold her reins in a tightly clenched fist. She then gives the mare a huge wallop from her heels. The mare scoots forward and her head up, and the girl grabs her in the mouth hard.
Instead of walking to get the horse calmed down, the girl again wallops her in the gut with her heels, trying to get her to trot. Again, the head goes flying up and the girl yanks back, and it keeps happening over and over again, and the girl isn’t taking any direction from me. But wait, it gets better.
So she finally gives the mare her head enough to get a little trot out of her, but then starts flying out of the tack. Like, I kid you not, her butt was a foot out of the seat. It quickly becomes apparent that she doesn’t know how to post and her reins have slipped so she’s clutching them by the buckle. The mare hates bouncing, so gets quicker and quicker while I’m yelling “JUST TELL HER WHOA AND SHORTEN UP YOUR REINS”. Predictably, she ignores me. Finally, they break into a canter. They just kept getting faster and faster and the girl almost fell off several times (did I mention that her foot was jammed all the way into the stirrup?? :mad:). Finally stopped them by stepping out in front of the horse and raising my hands up. The mare wasn’t running away - the girl just was kept kicking her and bouncing around without any consistent contact.
This bullsh*t goes on for a freaking HOUR. The girl finally falls off (not bucked off. Fell off.), but insists on getting back on, completely ignoring my suggestions to call it a day. Gets back on, mare is getting pissed (at this point mouth is bleeding, covered in foam, just done and fried with the whole situation), throws an itty bitty cow kick and the girl is off again, finally says she wants to be done.
Throughout all of this, her mother is just standing there holding a video camera, not even upset when the girl falls off??? I lead the mare out of the ring, stick her on crossties and try to bid them goodbye. “Well aren’t you going to untack her?” the mother asks. I explain that I don’t want her to end on a naughty note like that and I’m going to get on her in a minute (while casually slipping her mints and wondering why I’m not asking 5k more for her after she didn’t completely lose her mind with this girl). Mother insists on staying to watch me work the mare, with the disinterested daughter staring at the ground. I hop on, mare gives a tiny crowhop, then does a quick w/t/c both ways in a cute frame without issue. Mother is recording the entire thing (was she hoping to get film of me falling off???) and the daughter goes storming out.
The whole thing was the weirdest thing ever. A quick fb stalk revealed that they did in fact have a trainer, but how is it even possible for someone to be that bad of a rider while in a program? We sell several horses a year (some of them beginners trail horses) so I’ve seen some pretty bad riders, but she was easily one of the worst. And the mother didn’t seem worried when she fell, is that just a normal occurrence in her lessons? How is it possible that she ever jumped? And weirdest of all WHY are they looking at green horses? So many questions.