I admit I’ve not read all the responses, so I’m likely repeating what other posters have said. But for me, not riding at all would be my last choice, even if the delayed gratification meant a super nice horse in my future. Carpe Diem and all that, but you don’t know if you’ll have some health issues, get hit by a car, have to deal with a sick/high-maintenance family member/start a family, or any other of the 10,000 things that could derail your ‘plan’ and prevent you from getting to buy/ride that amazing unicorn in 5 years.
And even if you do get that amazing horse in a few years, without maintaining riding fitness and your eye for distances, you might not be able to do that horse justice.
Or, even if all that goes according to plan, and the first month you own that expensive Dream Horse, it trips in turnout and does a suspensory or DDFT.
I’m in a job that no one picks to make them rich. It also involves frequent travel or moves to places where riding isn’t an option, so I’ve had periods of time where I wasn’t able to ride much or at all. So I understand where you’re coming from and I’ve been there. It’s tough to not be able to pursue the show dreams you have and feel stagnant and unfulfilled in your riding in general, and even worse when you’re dragging along a retiree or NQR horse that saps all your fun money.
Chronically NQR horse is an anchor. Is he sound enough to free lease as a trail horse or LL mount? If not, or if he’s too quirky for that, can you find him a less expensive pasture-board situation?
Saving up for a farm of your own will let you cut costs on keeping your NQR horse as well as board on any/all future horses. That’s the time to find a baby/young prospect. Once you’re not paying full board, and only costs, is when getting the yearling makes sense… it’s like buying on layaway: it takes a while to get that fancy 4yo, but it spreads out the costs over several years. But it sounds like a horse property of your own is still a ways down the road. It’s not worth paying full board on a young one that you can’t even ride yet.
Are there any barns closer to you? A half lease and schooling shows is probably the choice (of your three) I’d pick to stick with, but your barn is pretty far away, and that takes a lot of gas and mental energy. Honestly, I’d likely skip the schooling shows and instead try to pick up a cheap or free full lease on a horse I could keep closer to home. Riding is my happy place, and while showing is fun, that’s something I can skip for a year or three, as long as I’m getting saddle time and feeling like I’m improving, or at least maintaining. Maybe balance it out with a once-a-year show lease at a nicer (e.g. FL) venue for a week to scratch the show-itch. There are some fun “things” you can do that may fill the gap that showing leaves. For me it’s foxhunting. For the price of 2-3 shows I can hunt for a full season and it’s a great welcoming community. My riding is better and stronger than ever, and when I have a horse that I can return to the show ring with, I think all the galloping cross country and jumping over varied terrain will only have helped me. Maybe you can find some similar niche, whether that’s dressage lessons, or whatever, even if it’s not competing in the medals/jumpers.
But BL, you have no idea what tomorrow will bring, so I wouldn’t put all your dreams on hold to save for them. I’d do whatever you can to continue to ride now, while slowly still building savings and skills for those future dreams.