How do I politely remind this individual that I did not ask for her to meddle in my equine business? For the last 2weeks, no matter what I tell this person, they’ve been trying to tell me how to run/price/advertise my business.
Now mind you, I was successfully running my own as well as my ex and I’s business (training, showing, selling- some horses overseas too, massaging, demos) overseas. It didn’t happen overnight there, not expecting it to here.
Cheers 
“Hey, I really appreciate your attempts to help out, but I’ve got this covered. If I need your advice, I’ll be sure to let you know!”
Or, if they aren’t that important to you, block their number and move on.
Is this a person in your daily life or an online troll? Is this someone just coming up to you with ideas or is this someone who is trying to bargain with you about goods or services? Is this a family member or just a bored barn biddy?
In any case, people can only have conversations with you if you allow it.
If this is an online contact block them. If this is someone at the barn, stop standing around gossiping with them and don’t tell them things. If this is a customer block them. If this is your nosy addled mother it’s more complicated but you can still stop telling her details.
Basically stop interacting with the person.
Thank you,
They’re someone I’ve been assisting post their surgery.
I spoke to Nana yesterday about how I need to cut her off, so it’s refreshing to hear others agree as well so I’m not coming off as a bad person. (I was kinda starting too, voice saying “they’ve got nothing better to do” but at the same time… find another hobby to focus on and get your nose out of my business. If you’re not gonna use my services, or like or share my posts- nose out) 
I’m confused. This is your grandma? Or this is an old person you’re caring for? Relative or are you a home care aide?
Regardless you need to manage your time with them and not let them into your personal life. I expect you chatted a lot about your business and problems and then they got too i
invested because they are bored or maybe having cognitive issues. If you talked about your children or husband or boyfriend they’d likely get invested too and give you dumb advice.
The takeaway concept here is Personal Boundaries. Don’t overshare if you aren’t prepared for the results of sharing.
Just someone who was looking for help looking after animals post surgery- no relation.
I just tell her the same stuff- I’ve started up the business before, I have cards, that’s the car magnet for now, these are the services and more info is on my pages. I don’t divulge any other info (personal or business), haven’t told her of any struggle (I walked away when I had to answer the phone in regards to one of my horses and she got nosey so I kept telling her that the police are handling it and she doesn’t need to concern herself) as she’s technically a client. When she insists I stay to chat I just tell her I’ve got clients and things to do. I think she really is lonely and bored and has decided me and my business are her new hobby.
Ok she is your client for your horse care business, so she also knows about horses but is bored, nosey, and wants to show off her own horse knowledge.
If you aren’t telling her anything important then what’s she getting her teeth into that gets under your skin?
I would definitely keep anything juicy like police out of her sight!
She’s lonely and wants to chat, but if she has you stay beyond your paid time then you are losing money.
Alternatively come prepared with horsey topics that lead away from you and your business. If she’s older ask her about how she rode as a kid. Ask about old competitions. Ask about her favorite horse. Ask her about the personal lives of her current horses.
Or about anything in her house, baking or canning or crafts or whatever she does.
Lonely people like this don’t really want to know about you. They just want to hear themselves talk at someone. That’s why they are lonely as noone wants to visit them. Sometimes there’s a bit of undiagnosed autism spectrum too.
Feed her topics that let her talk about herself and her own horses, and she well forget about talking about you. Also put a timer on how long you linger after your chores are done.
She doesn’t care about your business really. She just thinks it’s a topic you will find interesting and stay with her longer.
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