Thank you, I"ll check the book out.
I don’t mean any disrespect by this, but I guess in my mind I’m not understanding how it’s coming off in this thread that I’m pushing myself to jump? I’ll try to give a little more context:
Returned to riding August 2020. Didn’t jump anything for a few months. Tried a few different trainers, some had me jumping, and I was totally fine. No fear, and I set my boundaries that I wasn’t going to be doing huge courses, anything over like 2’3 anytime in the near future. Heck, If I’m being honest it was probably under 2ft the whole time.
It wasn’t until maybe November or so of 2020 that I started with a trainer who I liked at first but who sat me on a total greenbean OTTB that threw me and was so panic stricken. Then I had the QH who burrowed to the center of the earth after fences, and my confidence was shot. I remember feeling horrible speaking up during a group lesson that I wasn’t comfortable jumping right now, and I needed to just focus on building myself back up and doing flat work. I got a lot of crap for that which ultimately led to me leaving.
The next barn I went to in maybe August of 21 or so, I worked on that confidence. Started doing small courses. Got a little nervous about run outs due to a horse I’d sometimes ride, but for the most part, I felt okay. I was doing much better. Then I got my horse, who knocked me down many, many pegs as she reminded me of my childhood horse who took off…because she’s the only other horse to ever do that and I got tossed into a wall and had a concussion.
After that, I spent 10 gruelling months just working on standing at a mounting block, walking, walking on a loose rein, walking and building enough trust to walk with no stirrups, going on trail, trot, sit trot, stretchy trot, a little bit of canter (circles and maybe 6 mo into our time together) and ground poles.
After she sold in November I started dressage on school masters. I’ve done only a handful of crossrails and cavaletti’s since Summer of 2021. Probably under 10 total. I feel like that is slow, and taking my time. Maybe it’s that I’m pressuring myself to jump, but it’s only because I know that deep down I love it, I just have a mental block.
But based on everyone’s responses here, it seems like I’m trending in the right direction, as I’m working on my fitness, taking dressage lessons, riding schoolmaster/btdt types, and honestly not jumping.
I’m sorry for the novel, and I hope it didn’t come off as defensive. I appreciate your opinion, I’m just confused as to how it seems like I’m pushing myself when I feel like I’m moving at a snails pace.