I can’t let that rest.
Your very first post here is you, accusing a long time and well respected member of this forum of “ugliness”.
Instead of presenting yourself as a rational human being You, posting for the first time on this thread, jumped into the ugly deep end with both feet, because someone understood that your husband was suspended by the FEI due to his arrest, but did not realize that he had not been convicted of the charges against him. Your response makes them, albeit their misunderstanding, not you, present as the rational person.
Most people here don’t have the time or the inclination to delve deep into researching the online status of the criminal records of anyone who is suspended by Safe Sport because of felony legal proceedings against them.
Many people who are suspended by Safe Sport complain and have friends, relatives or acquaintances complain about the horrible injustice of it all, however many of us are willing to let the process take its course, just as we have to wait for the legal system to come to a final conclusion.
The welfare of children has to take precedence at some point in time and it’s been a long time coming.