I rent a horse property and care for a couple horses daily, in addition to my FT job. Recently the property owner brought on a new boarder, who negotiated partial self care for her 3 horses. Partial self care means the boarder comes in the evenings to cover one shift, but needs me to cover the mornings.
Because I still have a FT job, I have a cap on the number of horses and stalls I can cover before I need another hand. Technically these 3 would put me over that limit, but because of the “partial” aspect of it, I agreed to take them for a little extra comp.
If everything were split 50/50 between mornings and evenings, I don’t think I would have a problem. But now that this has been going on for a few months, my sense is that the boarder shows up in the evening and does the bare minimum (feed and hay). That leaves two dry lots and one stall untouched to accumulate 24 hr of manure to pick out in the mornings, and water buckets that constantly need scrubbing and refilling.
On random occasions, the boarder will go above and beyond to clean everything immaculately. Other times, she will do a little, so it’s clear an effort was made. But she still leaves a disproportionate number of time-consuming tasks undone. If she never, ever did her share of self care, I would find it easier to confront her or the barn owner. But because she sometimes makes an effort, I don’t feel comfortable “accusing” her to the owner.
So to answer my own question, yes, I am a doormat. I feel like a very flat doormat in this situation. And I’m annoyed because I feel like there should be a very obvious, tactful way to solve this. But I’m fairly new in the position, don’t feel entitled to complain, and am also bothered that I did in fact agree to this before I knew what the boarder would be like.
I think on some level I am embarrassed to complain… How do people navigate these types of situation with finesse? Because I hate to admit it, and it feels a little immature too, but I find myself feeling this way in more situations than just this one.