Thanks all.
You know, I was a groom for 10 yrs. or so, after high school, then did the “real career”. However, the real career has not turned out the way it should have.
I got a degree, work in medicine, make a decent wage. However, we have no real retirement (it is only the money we put in their 403B, they contribute nothing) and a tiny, tiny, tiny amount from a union (although we have gotten letters for the past few years saying that was in serious financial danger). I do not have much feelings for what I do now, never did, although it is important and I do it well. I chose it because I needed the “real career” and it was the best do-able answer I could find. So, it’s been pretty empty except for the decent hourly wage. It has, however, destroyed my body. One cannot lift people continually and not break down from it. So - great, the real career has no retirement, has destroyed my body and been kind of unfulfilling. It pays o.k. but not enough to save up for a decent retirement.
Oh, well . . . so did I really win with the real career . . .