Late to this party, so sorry if I’m a few pages behind in the discussion.
Prudent’s remarks were quite unvarnished and, by her own admission, she doesn’t have a productive solution to the current set of problems she outlines.
Where I think folks in this thread started to go wrong (at least on page one) was to suggest that giving ammies “who only have enough money to show at 2’6” was “elitist.” Look, calling someone elitist is quite an accusation in the purportedly class-free U S of A. We don’t take kindly to people who say you are born with it or you are SOL and that’s the way it goes.
But! There are lots of things about horsing that are really NOT elitist at all.
Jumping bigger than 2’6" is, quite frankly, one of them. Doing that takes some instruction, some practice, mental toughness and, maybe, some physical toughness. But riding is a sport– it involves risk and skill. If you don’t like those aspects of riding horses, it seems to me that you don’t really want to participate in the actual sport.
And, as Prudent points out, you used to not be able to got to a horse show at all until you jumped 3’6". By the time I was a kid, that height was 3’ at the rated shows. You could jump lower (but also lots higher) at schooling shows back then. So if you wanted to show, you had to learn to ride well enough to navigate a course of one of these sizes.
I agree that the standards of performance (particularly in the hunter ring) and the cost of the rare horse who can do the job of the A/O hunter or Regular Working Hunter competitively is cost-prohibitive for all but the 1%. I will be less bothered if y’all call this state of affairs “elitist.”
But if you don’t need to jump that 4’ course in Wellington or at Devon, I promise you, you can still learn to ride that well. Buck the “elitist” system and learn to ride well and care for horses well, rich or poor. You can still do that in America.