I do a heck of a lot of riding AND driving lessons.
I’ve never found yet that one size fits all. Never ever found that I’ve not to observe and listen and pay attention to what’s working for someone. Never ever found that everyone is able to physically do everything the same. Never found that everyone is able to process things in the same manner. It’s the reason why coaching and teaching isn’t about just passing on a defined method or saying “watch what I do” or “do it just like me” or “everyone else can do it, why can’t you”
Whether someone is just within the range of “normal” or has special needs, I’ve always found it to be true that people learn, develop and progress better if the lesson is geared to their individual needs and requirements.
I’m sorry to say this but if a pupil isn’t handling reins correctly for a year then it’s obvious that something isn’t right. Now I don’t know what you do and how you assess the individuals in the first place but I’m thinking it’s that which you need to concentrate on.
Not what people tell you can and can’t be achieved.
Before and during every single lesson you have to assess what someone is capable of and plan to engage and raise the capability. You have to be able to know what is working and what isn’t in terms of your own technique.
Apply that principle to your lessons and you’ll find that rather than wanting to be told what someone can’t do and isn’t able to achieve that you’ll be thinking “Let’s see I’m going to challenge this notion and see what can really be achieved”
I’ve posted previously about work I do for adults and children with disability and special needs with a range that goes from profound multiple physical and learning disability and personality disorders to a “well I would never have first guessed”.
I try to look at the individual as the individual NOT someone with some sort of disability that I should have been told about so I could have known right from the start and planned better.
Having said that, I have spent a lot of time reading up on learning styles, talking to health care professionals and particularly to physiotherapists and other therapists about special needs in terms of what I must do and for such as poor co-ordination, poor muscle tone, paraplegia, quadraplegia, learning difficulties, visually impaired etc etc etc.
To me the question to be asked is not what can the pupil do and why wasn’t I told that in the first place.
It’s what can you do and how comes you never realised that your technique needed to change to get the best out of the individual. Why was this so frustrating and so long.
To do the former in my opinion is labelling and all too often blocks or inhibits achievement. Folks too often achieve only what’s expected of them and they start to believe what they can’t do not what they CAN do.
Believe you can do more and that you can find a way to help them do that and develop the assessment and coaching techniques to do that and you’ll find you unlock potential and find that people surprise themselves and others.
I personally have no problem at all with understanding why someone wouldn’t want to come with a child and say “adopted, born of drug using scum”, “deaf and dumb so can’t understand”. Folks who provide opportunity and seek to change the circumstances VERY often understand that it’s labelling that impedes or inhibits. When it’s a child even more so that can happen. Start by telling a child they can’t do something then they’ll start to believe it and it will become a self-fulfilling prophesy.
Too often those with disability are patronised, accommodated or treated with sympathy and there’s a heck of a lot of discrimination and telling them what they “can’t do”. Too often disability is about exclusion and isolation and being unable or “impaired”. In my opinion MUCH better to think of accessibility and inclusion and empathy and understanding and come at it from what can be done and how you can engage and help to achieve potential.
You might find these of interest and thought provoking:
http://www.chronofhorse.com/forum/showthread.php?p=4638016&highlight=disability#post4638016
http://www.chronofhorse.com/forum/showthread.php?p=4586837&highlight=disability#post4586837
http://www.chronofhorse.com/forum/showthread.php?p=4438010&highlight=disability#post4438010
http://www.chronofhorse.com/forum/showthread.php?p=4403102&highlight=disability#post4403102
http://www.chronofhorse.com/forum/showthread.php?p=2479711&highlight=disability#post2479711