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I thought faster horses stayed on the inside because they have more maneuverability to navigate in a smaller space? Maybe I’m just remembering it backwards.
I normally would atleast apologize and such, but you really can’t when the other rider literally does not stop. lol
I get frazzled with this particular other person because she is basically the most influential, shall we say, client to the head trainer/BO. I would not want her telling other riders/trainers that I am careless or dangerous to school around… though I think most people know I am not.[/QUOTE]
Is the real problem that this rider is using her relationship with the head trainer and her status as “top AA client” to in effect physically bully other riders in the arena? Is she taking out her frustrations about crowded ring on other riders? Is she trying to make riding with her so unpleasant that the “low level riders” (ie you) are scared to ride with her, and she therefore gets the arena to herself? Is this behavior consistent with her general attitude around the barn? If so, you have a larger problem on your hands than just ring etiquette.
However, the only way to deal with it is through a discussion about ring etiquette. Approach the BM or whoever decides these things. Don’t mention Dangerous Diva. Say that you’ve had several near-crashes, and you think it would be very helpful for everyone to formalize the ring rules, and post them as a sign in the arena (this is very common practice). They can include pass left to left, shout out change of directions, be courteous, etc. You could bring in a list copied from on-line, and say that you aren’t that concerned about the details, only that everyone is on the same page. If the BM supports the rules, then everyone has to follow them.
The other suggestion is to not give in to what I suspect is deliberate physical harrassment by Dangerous Diva. Rather than accommodate her abrupt demands, don’t. Or stop your horse and look confused. Or ride straight at her. If she complains, you say (calmly, not defensively) that she was being dangerous and need to call out her pattern changes earlier. And then say to BM that the arena clearly needs clear etiquette rules posted so this will never happen again.
Also watch to see if she is doing this to other riders. Maybe even chat quietly, away from Dangerous Diva, at a moment you can be casual, to ask if they had any problems with her. If so, how did they solve them? It is quite possible that she is a Known Problem, and that if you simply stand up to her she leaves you alone.
I dealt with something similar, and found if the Dangerous Diva realizes that she might actually crash into you, she will give you a lot more room.