In addition to making sure he has an equally time-consuming hobby, Prozac helps. For him, I mean!
I work basically 9-5, office is 10 minutes from barn. I’m lucky in that I work by myself for the most part, so that I can stop by the barn before going in to the office, and no one will complain of my new “perfume”! I occasionally try to ride at lunchtime. Other than that, I have two children and a husband, and between the after-school activities, the children’s social calendar, the need to do SOME housework, and the desire to be with my husband (patient soul that he is), it sure is hard to find time for the horse. But my husband never begrudges me the time, he says the horse is “cheaper than a shrink!” It helps that my daughter is very involved with the horse, also.
“The simple truth is never simple and rarely true.”
-Oscar Wilde
I began riding after we were married. At the moment, hubby spends evenings (till 9:30) taking care of his mum, who is in an assisted living facility. That gives me all the time I want to spend at the barn.
Once the mum is out of the picture (it can’t happen soon enough), we’ll have to see what we work out. So far, he’s been supportive and even encouraged me to buy Billy. I think, ultimately, that he’ll be even more enthusiastic.
“The optimist fell ten stories,
And at each window bar,
He shouted to the folks inside,
‘Doing alright so far!’”
--AnonymousI have just been married a little over 4 months and I have struggled with this as well as alot of you know!!! 
But we’re working on it!! But it’s great to have riding just as the husbands need their hobbies as well!!! I used to just sit and wait for him to come home…now that I am riding, I ride on the days that he comes home at 9;30 at night so we get home at the same time!! He’s a cop and works long hours and it is getting better i must say!! We enjoy the time that we have together and he is SO HAPPY that I am riding again and back to my normal self!!
Barb
Yeah, what is it about the CHAPS???
We were at Biltmore last year, and the Texas Tundra guy was there with his display of fabulous chaps. Of course I stopped to admire them… My SO couldn’t buy me (another) pair fast enough. FWIW, I did remind him I already had a nice pair at home… nope, he wanted to pick out those skins himself!!!
They are quite over the top, but I adore them. He asks quite frequently if I will bring them home, but he knows they are a “barn toy!”
To appreciate heaven well
'Tis good for a man to have some fifteen minutes of hell.
Will Carleton (1845-1912)
