Your etiquette in asking for the test was fine, but it was also fine that the seller was not interested in going this route.
From a sellers perspective, some types of extra testing can take up too much time and pull a horse off the market too long to be fair to the seller. Obviously if you were spending the $$ for the testing you wouldn’t want the seller to sell the horse to someone else while waiting for the results. Many sellers want a PPE done pretty briskly, a matter of days or at most a week for a horse in this demographic, in case a more motivated/less picky buyer comes along.
Also, people who do PPEs that feel “extra” (unless it’s a high end show horse) often find a reason to not buy the horse. And then the seller is left in the difficult situation of having wasted time only to now have to disclose to potential buyers that the horse “failed a vetting” or had some suboptimal feature on PPE. I’ve even seen weird situations where the buyer passes on the horse for some particular reason, but then tracks the horse’s social media ads and messages potential buyers warnings about the results to pre-emptively police that the seller is disclosing the info.
I’m not judging your desire to do the test as nitpicky. If that’s what you want, that’s what you want. At the same time it’s not part of a typical PPE for a typical draft cross. (Maybe it should be/ will be in the future.) I’m also pointing out that there are some time constraints and also social media has introduced a lot of opportunity for people to behave weirdly and I think that makes sellers a little more cautious about working with a buyer who doesn’t seem to be following what they see as the traditional script.