My children are grown now but I did not give up riding for the purpose of or due to the fact that I had children - except for 2 weeks around the birth of my first and three months for the birth of my second (got too big and uncomfortable after my 6th month of pregnancy with my son). With the exception of college, vet school, internship and the first 2 years of practice I have always had my horses at home (growing up and then from my 3rd year of practice to now and I’ve been practicing for 32 years). I planned on having (giving birth to) my kids around show season and the horses I had at the time. I built and pursued my breeding program with my kids in tow. My children while very young were used to being in back packs while I held my horses for the farrier, used to entertaining themselves in the play pen when I rode during the day, and I made sure I had a lighted arena on every property I owned so that I could ride at night while my children’s father watched them. This was discussed and agreed upon between my former spouse and I before we had kids and continued while my kids grew up. I worked full-time and paid for my endeavors. I earned my bronze and silver on horses I trained and showed…again with my kids in tow, and once they were old enough they were showing too. This along with other ‘issues’ took a toll on my marriage; but, my kids and I have developed a strong bond as a result of their exposure to and involvement with ME and MY horses…LOL…the kids eventually did earn and still have their own horses.
I have never been without a horse. My goals of riding, showing and training continue now that I’m in my late 50’s. I have no regrets and though my kids did complain about the amount of time I was away from them due to work they didn’t really ever complain about my time spent with the horses. I can honestly say both of my children are responsible, decent and caring adults with a hard work ethic (their employers have been more than forthcoming on that topic) that I think they developed as a result of growing up on a working horse ranch as well as being drug along to my work to help fill in when I was low on staff. I will repeat that I have no regrets even knowing that my choices contributed to the dissolution of my marriage. I am financially comfortable due to MY work and My management of my earnings. I still work full-time and will likely continue to do so at least until 65 or more because I am also financially responsible for and take care of my elderly mother. The point is, that you can make it work though you will always have to make choices and constantly juggle all the facets of your life. My ‘horse addiction’ has morphed into now just having 4 horses (1 retired and 3 I am riding, no more breeding but still showing) which is right for me at my stage in life. I always have made and continue to make just about every decision based on the fact that I am addicted to horses and riding. If that makes me selfish, so-be-it. My children have turned out okay and they seem to be comfortable with my choices.