Hi all,
I am fairly new to COTH and am looking for some insight from any parents who have been through something similar, and how you handled it.
My husband and I are trying for children via fertility methods after 2 years of infertility and a loss at 5 months, our only pregnancy two years ago. In the time in between I have found a barn, started volunteering, and started taking weekly lessons again, mostly jumping – either SJ or XC and not above Novice level for now. I’ve also formed some relationships at the barn and will school others’ horses, usually greenies, for experience and because it gives me someone to practice on during the week between lessons. So far it’s been fun, fruitful, and I’m becoming the rider I was before my 5-year break (poor and post college).
My SO is not a horse person, in that, he knows nothing about them. He supports whatever I decide to do, which I appreciate tremendously, but he is fairly unfamiliar with the sport. And due to this, I feel like I am in a bit of a rut when it comes to advice.
I am almost 28, I’ve been riding my entire life and was schooling Prelim before I had to sell my horse for college money (rode greenies for the next 4 years). Riding in the past year has given me some sort peace after losing our baby and going through the struggles of infertility. That being said, our MD seems very certain we will be conceiving soon, and I am wondering if this means I will have to give up riding. On the one hand, it feels like I should be willing to do anything for our next pregnancy. On the other hand, I already did that, and the results were devastating because when we lost our child I had very little to fall back on that made me genuinely happy. Riding was the first thing in over a year that made me feel alive again, and like I had purpose, and I realize how corny that may sound.
So I am wondering, are there other mothers out there who rode and took lessons through their pregnancy? Or at least through the first half of it? Or fathers who watched their wives go through this? My goal is to make an informed decision, and this seemed like the right place, and group, to query. Please be kind, and looking forward to your thoughts.