Saint Carl has died

[whicker]

The Hunting Princesses have lost one of our own. My extraordinary DH, Saint Carl, died of cancer 2 weeks ago. He was gallant, chivalrous and a magnificent chef for the Coth hunt extravaganzas. Hinderella’s DH and he would conjure up tv cooking show worthy dinners, while they wore the glitzy sparkling crowns. Anyone who needed a kind word or a leg up could count on his gentle, encouraging support.

I’m following your posts, even though I’m not posting or riding yet. Please feel free to contact me. Your posts, stories and friendship will help me through this…Any happy, fun threads would help bring some smiles through the tears…

He wanted to have his ashes spread in the back pasture, where with his glass of wine in hand, he use to watch me ride and the Dressage Diva graze and talk to him over the fence. We are planning a memorial gathering in May for him.Those you who want to come, please p.m. or contact me.

I’ve been asked to write a book about him and our fight with cancer. I would appreciate any stories or memories you have of him, both for me to remember him by, and perhaps included in the book, (with permission).

[JackieandOllie]

I am so sorry for the loss of your DH. I read your hunting posts and fantasize about me hunting my pony one day, just like you.

God comfort you in this difficult time. It seems like you and your husband had a wonderful life together. May his memory stay with you forever and give you comfort.

Fondly, Jackie and Ollie

[whicker]

Thank you, Jackie and Ollie…
Please stay in touch. I love mentoring. It is so much fun to watch a newbie’s eyes light up, and the grin appear as the hunting day goes on. I love hunting, and sharing it makes it better.

[2horseygirls]

I’m new to the boards, but send my heartfelt condolences for your loss.

[BasqueMom]

More condolences…he sounds like one exceptional DH!

[twelvegates]

I’m so sorry for your irreplaceable loss. I haunt the hunting board, wishing I could do what you do and happy that you two were so supportive and loving.

I remember a line from “Steel Magnolias”, “I’d rather have 30 minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special”.

For you and your husband, it sounds like a lifetime of wonderful.

God speed.

[Linny]

My condolences on your loss. It sounds as though you found a one in a million partner. I hope you keep his memory alive through a book. It would be a fine tribute.

RIP

[CVPeg]

Am so sorry, Whicker. Has been awhile, but also enjoyed the hunting posts, and the tales of the men in the kitchen, which made me almost as envious as following the hounds.

So very sorry you had to go through this. May you find peace, and feel the love of all of those surrounding you.

[gjp]

Out of the blue last week, I thought of you and your entertaining self. I hadn’t seen any posts from you for a while. I am so terribly sorry to here this news. Although I did not know your husband except for meeting him once, I’m certain he was a fine man. My deepest sympathy. Gaila

[cheval_convert]

My deepest condolences. You and Carl are/were a testament to a loving, giving, and caring marriage. Praying that God will gold you in his hand during this most difficult time.

[SLW]

(((Hugs))) on your loss Whicker. Sending you prayers for grace and strength.

[whicker]

Saint Carl’s sharing legacy, his book, Short Circuit the Hard Wiring

[QUOTE=twelvegates;7275123]
I’m so sorry for your irreplaceable loss. I haunt the hunting board, wishing I could do what you do and happy that you two were so supportive and loving.

I remember a line from “Steel Magnolias”, “I’d rather have 30 minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special”.

For you and your husband, it sounds like a lifetime of wonderful.

God speed.[/QUOTE]

Saint Carl and I had about 18 years together. We were madly in love with each other the whole time. What you saw with us was really true. There is an art and a framework of caring communication that makes this kind of relationship happen.

Saint Carl’s lifework was to train others the same skills. Like Einstein, he distilled the knowledge into a simple, elegant, easy to remember formula. I have his cache of his book, Short Circuit the Hard Wiring. It explains the way the brain works under stress and how to change for the better the physical process by a “story”. It works for personal relationships and horses, too.

Saint Carl was one of the authors of the E.E.O. laws of the U.S., then went on to larger things. He was one of the greats in his field, and taught literally millions of people how to manage in the workplace. He was one of the founders of S.P.I.D.R., the international dispute resolution society, and the conflict resolution program at George Mason University.

[ridingagain]

Whicker,

He was indeed a saint for putting up with us “hunting Princesses” and so gallantly, as well. I will always remember the great gatherings at your house - the delicious meals he prepared and his graciousness as a host. Condolences to you and your family and may your many happy memories comfort you during this difficult time.

Amy

[B_Street_Tango]

Whicker, I’m so sorry read this. My heart aches for you. I have tears in my eyes. I’ve lost both of my parents to cancer and know just how awful it is watch it take the people you care about. Although, certainly not the same as losing the love of your life that you’ve shared so much with. My thoughts are with you and your family and wish you healing thoughts.

[ccoronios]

What a wonderful-sounding icon of the human race (and I mean that sincerely with all respect) your husband sounds like. When you are able, writing a book about his life would be, I think, salving for you and a tribute to his life.

I am so sorry for your loss.