I sincerely hope someone can help…even if it is with a grain of advice. Or comfort. Here goes…long post, apologies in advance…
I have a 6 year old WB sport horse, whom I have owned since 2 years of age. Personality and temperament wise - a lap dog, labrador. But a leader, not a follower. A quirky, keen and very brave boy. Very talented. Loved by everyone at the yard, especially by the small kids. And spoiled by his mom, very. All he knows I taught him, the good and the bad. I backed him myself when he turned 4, had a year of fun, and then turned on the more serious-work-odometer when he turned 5…only dressage and english showing, no jumping yet as I am very careful bringing him on too quickly - daddy only matured at 8 years of age. Careful of those precious legs. Popped him over a cavaletti or two, and the ears prick and the bum bucks - he loves it. My goal is making an all-rounder of him, he’s got it in his blood.
That is if I can get him in a trailer. To go to places where he, we, can have fun.
So, my problem. Long story short… I trained him to load as a baby, and he loaded FINE. No problems, I could take him to shows and show him off. Cause he is a beaut. Then we went through the backing process, obviously laying off the outings. When the time came, we entered a few shows, so we could get out there, get show fit and give him some exposure (when I say “we” that is my steed, me, my hubby, 3yo son, family, friends, fellow competitors). He loaded perfectly…until one show day we entirely missed our show. Because special pony wouldn’t get in the trailer. And then two other shows were paid for, and we never got there to compete. I was told that he has a “pull-push-back pressure” problem - the moment he sees the trailer closing (2-berth straight load) or ANY movement behind him, he charges out. With force. A danger to both himself and the people with him.
I went through an extensive 8 week training period with a loading expert with him, mainly using the Monty Roberts principles and tools (like the Dually halter), after which he loaded, got on, never quite relaxed, and we managed to get to exactly two shows. Thereafter, without warning, we had the same issue again. Not loading, missing shows, being very nervous. PLEASE NOTE: he travels alone, even loading my other horse (his “brother” which he stands with in a paddock during the day) or any other horse for that matter, makes a difference in him getting in. The trailer is spacious, without a stallion partition. I ALWAYS drive slow and carefully. And I always make sure he has the freshest and most luscious grass & lucern available to him while we travel. Not mentioning the treats and carrots. Which we run out of after a while.
So, after the expert’s methods didn’t work, I did a LOT of research in terms of videos, articles, methods etc - and began to apply them. Knowing him so well, I could determine quite quickly what was going to work and what not. So we tried. And tried - trail and error. These sessions took place at the yard, with the stationary trailer hooked onto my car, so we could practice. And during one of those sessions, we had such a power struggle, he became so dangerous and ended up injuring not only me, but himself. To such and extent that he had to undergo surgery to save his eye which he bumped so badly that he lacerated the cornea. Very VERY traumatic experience for both of us. I still cry. He came out of the trailer after the horrific event, out of the theatre, out of the hospital - a lap dog. No bad behavior. Not towards me, or any of the vet staff. Thanks to our good and gracious Lord, we are on the mend.
What to do? Where did it go wrong? I am unfortunately not in a position to truck or load him in a float. In our country, we each have our own 2-berth straight load trailer, hooked up to our cars, and that is how we get to shows. He is PERFECT, in every sense of the word. Except if I want to take him anywhere. He is as good as gold when he is in the trailer (eventually), travels quiet and very well. And when we stop and take him out, he backs out quietly with no issues. And when we get to the warm-up arena, he tells me “sit back Mom, I’ve got this”. Mostly ending with the first place ribbon in all the classes.
I am at my wits end. He is my, and my family’s absolute dream horse, in every sense of the word. Now the trucking ghost is an even bigger issue. I. Don’t. Know. What. To. Do. HELP? Any advice?