I will try to explain without turning this into a novel. The horse is 12 now, I have had him since he was 3 but because of numerous changes, injuries, finances etc. in my life his training has been very sporadic. Also I am used to TBs and this is a laid back dutch warmblood. He is not nasty, has no bad habits but not the greatest work ethic. Back when I was working with a trainer she insisted I lunge with side reins, not the elastic kind. Of course I always started lunging without first.
Now that I am determined to finally make some progress I have found that he is happier if I give him a long warm up at the walk, trotting on very light contact first. Finally he will start talking hold and work from behind. I have not used side reins since starting him up again and just wondered just how beneficial they really are. Right now since neither of us is very fit I only work him 1/2 hour. I am thinking that once he is fitter I can expect him to take a good hold and work into the contact much sooner.
I know a lot of you will say “get a trainer” but can’t afford it right now.
I want to add that without proper guidance I am afraid to use any other gadget e.g. chambon or vienna reins.
Also want to say all my horses were started with long lines until they are backed. Never continued with them after.