i really like Ralph Lauren style of equestrian decor.
I have a dislike for country-western sort of horsey decorations.
And i totally am sympathetic with having tack here and there around the house. Heck, i’ve had a saddle sitting on the back of a sofa in the upstairs sitting room for almost two months and haven’t gotten around to oiling it yet.
Except for a few antique pieces of tack, there is no horse decor in our home. No paintings or prints, no ceramic horses … We have actual real horses right outside the front door (sometimes they’re around back) so, i suppose there isn’t much need for me to festoon up horseness inside the house when there is so much of them outside the house.
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I can’t stand any over/mono themed decor or even in a single room, much less an entire home, so YIKES. I suspect that there are some serious identity and trauma issues involved bc she can’t have any conversation with SO about it without becoming overly emotional and shutting down. DH’s concern is not frivolous at all.
Surprised at a some responses here so far. So what if a women wrote to advice column for help because her husband obsessively decorated their entire home with say poker card game theme and paraphernalia. Every time she tries to talk about it, he becomes emotional and she drops it because she is afraid of his anger and the way he yells at her. He reacts this way even when she tentatively suggests compromise on a single item, on one wall, of one room, of entire house. And thus he gets to dictate her entire physical and emotional landscape…
Same same as horse chick is doing to this dude.
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She needs a horse. He should buy her a horse. That is all 
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That would work on me! 
trinkets from competitions TRINKETS!! TRINKETS!! ha ha ha ha ha
Copy editors of the world, untie! 
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Well, to the non-horsy person/spouse who did not spend ridiculous amounts of money to earn those trinkets… Yes.
Says the woman who figures that circa 1990 EOY Reserve anti-sweat (in the wrong size) cost around $3K 
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Ahh, so you can tell I was a copy editor at times in my working life! I copy edited an entire book for someone who persistently used “lay” instead of “lie”. Our friendship didn’t survive.
Rebecca
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I agree with the other posters that there is a rather large difference between “I decorate my house like X because it makes me happy” and “I decorate my house like X because I haven’t moved on”. I’m a person who doesn’t really care about cohesiveness in decorating (I’m going for comfort and function, not aesthetics), but even I have seen some horse-themed houses that are… yikes.
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That is true. The latter situation is trickier and might call for therapy! But in either case, the letter writer will need to make room for her spouse. My husband and I each had our own fully furnished homes when we met. While I’m not, personally, into a lot of horse-decor, we both certainly had our own styles and preferences. Blending them is not always easy - for instance, it truly baffles me why he doesn’t like my dining room table made of old reclaimed barn wood from Virginia! - but you find a way to find things you both like!
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