yes, i know. I woo him back with the butt scratches. There is no need to evade me, that’s what i wish to convey. That’s the goal here. What i want to do with you is fun, is good.
I don’t think i’ve whacked upon either of my babies yet. They’re pretty big now, and neither has shown inclination to aggress or play rough even. They don’t grab either and i’m a big time treat dispenser. I’ll bump and rub and move them with my body. I make a lot of physical contact with more than just my hands. My head my torso my shoulder etc. And of course, i handle them all over their bodies too.
I find that kindness works the best in almost all situations. Being sympathetic has gained my more progress toward my goal with a horse than being dominant. In my mustangs particularly. In fact they’ve taught me a lot. a lot a lot. Butt scratches and placing myself directly behind them, up close, scratching their butt, caressing the back of their hind legs gently, lightly scratching itchy lower legs…when i trust them enough to do those things, the world with them seems to change. It’s sort of one of those pivotal places in training.
The natural state …where i go automatically, is to deescalation. They go UP, i slow waaaay down. The goal is to bring them back asap and resume, ignoring the bump in the road and easing over whatever it is, so that next time, it is less. Then less…to extinction. Through kindness.
I have a lot of domestic horses from rescue. Some came-with quite a bit of baggage. Not one is bitey or kickey…and i don’t think it’s luck. Not with 10 of them, odds are at least one would be prickly. But they’re not. I think gentle respectful handling and kindness begets the same in return. (eventually! it takes a while for it to sink in with the wild ones lol)