Who and/or what do you have for your support system? I am lucky to have rid myself of toxic people and since surrounded myself with understand, supportive friends. Here is my support system:
My parents- I live at home with them. When I cannot drive, either my mother or father will take me to and fro. The assist with mucking and other barn chores. The also offer financial support. My father has even learned about grooming and picking hooves. My mom helps me every single day so I don’t overtax my body with barn chores.
My pseudo parents- Margie and Dick do morning feed and turnout for me every day. On days I have appointments or I am in the hospital, Margie and Dick will also muck and do my evening chores as well. Dick “babysits” me when I’m at the barn for the day…If I fall down, I call the house/barn phone from my cell and Dick comes running out to pick me up.
My “special friends”- I was lucky enough to meet Wendi and Robin on COTH. They are long distance support. We share our ups and downs. Our friendship is very special.
My able bodied horse friends - I am lucky enough to have formed friendships with able bodied equestrians who are supportive of me and my accomplishments. They treat me like a normal person, but are kind enough to offer to drive me or show my youngster in hand, etc. My true friends cheer me on and don’t put me down for what I cannot do. I am included in clinics, etc. Even if I cannot ride, I’m invited to go along and audit. They never make me feel handicapped or different.
My non horse friends - They visit me at the barn with coffee. They completely support my riding and stand by when I’m bedridden. I even have a friend who stops by with her dog so we can hang out while our dogs race around the riding ring. It’s nice because I don’t feel detatched from the world.
My new instructor- I was worried about finding a good instructor who would be willing to work with a disabled rider and a green horse. A friend introduced me to a fantastic trainer who had no qualms about working with me. For now I am riding one of her horses, but in April I will start trucking my mare over. This trainer has made me feel confident about my riding. She is completely understanding that I may have to cancel because of my body, but she will work around what my body is up to doing.
So, who supports you and your equestrian adventures? Does everyone have someone to help them emotionally and/or physically?