Okay so I have been riding at a barn that does flat work and I have decided I would like to switch to Hunter Equitation. My trainer and I have a mother daughter relationship and I don’t want to hurt her but I want to get it across that I am serious about leaving and she can’t sway my decision. I have left the barn before but ended up coming back and when I told her I was leaving she got very defensive. Here are other items that helped make the decision: she makes schooling shows over $1,000 (trailering , tack,horse etc.) when they would normally be $200, she has a terrible schedule and I am lucky if I ride once a month, when we show and have lessons she tacks up for us and so all we really do is ride, her prices are outrageous, she is always the “victim” for everything, she is the only one working at the barn and always complains about it, and she is a bit hard to talk to.
I really need help on how I should tell her without her getting defensive and trying to change my mind.