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I’m glad this subject has been brought up as I’ve always wanted to teach my horse to be both the “leader” and the “follower” in case of emergency on the trail.
My mare has a few bad habits-one is balking and sitting back when crosstied. Hopefully she’s over that now, but with a mare, you never know. 
I fear wrapping my mare’s lead rope on the “leader” horse’s horn and she just sits back waiting for the rope to break. (like she does in crossties) If she balked, the way you’d handle it is to let go of the lead rope, right? Wouldn’t that reinforce the bad behaviour? 
My other fear is my mare in the leader position, her thinking “This horse is too close, I’m gonna cow kick it to move him over”. I think I could feel a kick coming and keep her moving forward, but is there anything better I could do to prevent the “follower” from being hurt? 
Many moons ago when out in the woods on a young pony, we came across a loose horse. I quickly clipped a spare lead rope on him to bring him to the TB racing stable nearby where I was sure he escaped from. My pony had no qualms about ponying him. A few minutes into the return trip and BAM the TB’s head was right next to me! :eek:
He was a young stud and he mounted my girl!!!
It was easy to “lure” him home…didn’t need a lead rope! :lol:[/QUOTE]
My wife’s mare does the “set back” thing when she decides she’d rather be someplace else. IMO ponying will not deal with that issue. It’s better done by tying the offending horse eye high, arms length, with and to something that won’t break using a rubber “donut” made out of an old innertube. If crossties are the problem you can do it with two “donuts.” We’ve cut the behavior way back in the mare, but she’s 18, was taught this by a prior owner who tied her with hay strings, and breaking the vice will likely be a long and maybe less than completely successful program.
She has spent some time on the “bad mare wall” and is really not too bad. She ponys quite well. But I think the respect for the lead rope instilled by the “donut” is more responsible than the ponying exercise.
When riding the “master” horse you must be very alert at all times to any display of aggression and must deal with it vigorously. When we started my mare, an alpha, tried a couple of times to kick out. I was watching and as soon as I saw the ears go back and felt her shift her weight she got the right spur hard and a loud “NO.” I also was ready with my hand to restrain any attempt to jump foreward. And I had a deep seat. 
Even now she will sometimes show “annoyance” of the “slave” horse moves out of its position. She has not offered to kick in a couple of years. This may even help as the “slave” horse is following and learns where the “master’s” zone of comfort is. But ponying requires the human to be awake, alert, and ready to deal with what comes up.
G.